Relationship as a FIREd widower

[HFWR]

I’ve been independent for so long, having someone around all the time is nerve wracking.

If I could do a W2R, and have them live nextdoor, or maybe not quite that close…

There aren’t that many old hippies in this area anyhow.

 

[Koolau]

I’ve been independent for so long, having someone around all the time is nerve wracking.

And I've been married so long, I'd be lost without someone around. We're all so different.

 

[aja8888]

And I've been married so long, I'd be lost without someone around. We're all so different.

You would be more than lost, take my word for it. But eventually, you get used to it.

 

[Koolau]

You would be more than lost, take my word for it. But eventually, you get used to it.

Yeah. I really do feel for you, aja. I don't know how you go on. I suppose it's like all the tragedies of life. What other choice do we have but to go on. Blessings.

 

[TickTock]

I suppose it's like all the tragedies of life. What other choice do we have but to go on. Blessings.

A bit off-topic, but this reminded me of when we had to have our dog put to sleep (cancer). The only thing worse than doing that would have been not to do it and watch her suffer.

DW told me after that, "I always thought that when I die, you wouldn't cry. But now I know better."

 

[Koolau]

A bit off-topic, but this reminded me of when we had to have our dog put to sleep (cancer). The only thing worse than doing that would have been not to do it and watch her suffer.

DW told me after that, "I always thought that when I die, you wouldn't cry. But now I know better."

Yes, I cried at the loss of every pet. We knew our Vet for many years and he always cried too when he had to put an animal to sleep.

 

[TickTock]

It did comfort me that the last thing she heard was, "I love you, I love you, I love you."

 

[ychuck46]

My bold above....she really said that?

Anyway, like TB above, he is correct in saying: I'm not the same person I was before my wife died.
(I'm not either and that's what happens when you become a widower.)

Yes, she did. We have had a great life and when she is gone (if she goes first) she wants me to be happy, and if that means playing around some so be it. But at an even more "advanced" age I probably wouldn't want the hassle but who knows?

 

[ls99]

I do like the spontaneity of my widowerhood. Whatever, whenever, if at all.

 

[FlaGator]

I do like the spontaneity of my widowerhood. Whatever, whenever, if at all.

With the late wife long gone, the divorce fading in the rear-view mirror and the last kid off to college, I'm beginning to enjoy that aspect of single life. But it's been an adjustment not having a partner/sounding board for the important decisions.

 

[ls99]

There are two people involved now, at least in my case. Me and the image in the bathroom mirror. Decisions take a bit longer. More time spent on: what could go wrong?

 

[HFWR]

Single since ‘93, excluding a few dating relationships, so I have no one to blame.

 

[Koolau]

Single since ‘93, excluding a few dating relationships, so I have no one to blame.

Heh, heh, almost 55 years married - and STILL no one to blame!