Relative asking for my bank account number . . .

I'm not annoyed he doesn't know modern payment methods (I don't know them either).

I'm annoyed he asked for personal information that is none of his business and now is pouting about not getting it.
Well I think it started with him wanting to give you a gift, so it's too bad that it went off the rails. I happened to find some really old unused checks blanks from our checking account and it had both of our drivers license numbers printed in the address field. I've never used Zelle or Venmo either but as our grandkids are moving into their teenage years, I suspect I'm going to need to educate myself about the new age money transfer options.
 
I do not know what the issue is.

What can your relative do with your bank account number other than directing a deposit into it?

Seems to me this is nothing but a storm in a teacup.
 
Well I think it started with him wanting to give you a gift, so it's too bad that it went off the rails. I happened to find some really old unused checks blanks from our checking account and it had both of our drivers license numbers printed in the address field. I've never used Zelle or Venmo either but as our grandkids are moving into their teenage years, I suspect I'm going to need to educate myself about the new age money transfer options.
I used to have that sort of info printed on my checks too. . . years ago. I think I even had my SSN on there when I was in college since it was my id. . . heck they posted our grades on the walls of the hallway using it. . .

Using one of the modern methods wouldn't really be good for him even if he wanted to learn as he is not savvy enough to avoid a scam I think. IDK.
 
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If I had your account and routing numbers I could draw funds out of your account to pay my property taxes. They are supposed to match the name but that is easy to know.
I'm curious how this might work. Anyone I ever wrote a check to has my account and routing numbers. I've sent checks to some very unsavory characters who were quite proficient at various kinds of fraud. I assume they would have jumped at this opportunity, had it existed. Yet it never happened.

Of course, these particular thieves never paid property taxes. Or their rent. Or any of their bills. So maybe there's a loophole here which wasn't available to them. Still, I'd think if a withdrawal of someone else's property taxes hit my account, I'd just have a quick chat with the bank and they'd clear that up. Presumably there'd also be a knock on the door of that property, from the local law enforcement folks.
 
I'm not annoyed he doesn't know modern payment methods (I don't know them either).

I'm annoyed he asked for personal information that is none of his business and now is pouting about not getting it.

I told him no gift was necessary thanks anyway. He could have just said "okay". Pouting is not something adults should do.
All you had to say was "You don't need my account number, just do an e-transfer."
 
To ask for someone's bank account number is an odd request, even from a family member. Sure the relative probably won't abuse the information. But that is almost like someone asking for your password. To some that may not feel like a big deal. But to others, it is.

I don't give out my passwords or PIN codes to anyone no matter how they are related to me.

Does the person have an Amazon account? If so, you could just tell the person if they must give you something, get a gift card sent or emailed to you. Probably even easier than using bank numbers.
 
I'm curious how this might work. Anyone I ever wrote a check to has my account and routing numbers. I've sent checks to some very unsavory characters who were quite proficient at various kinds of fraud. I assume they would have jumped at this opportunity, had it existed. Yet it never happened.

Of course, these particular thieves never paid property taxes. Or their rent. Or any of their bills. So maybe there's a loophole here which wasn't available to them. Still, I'd think if a withdrawal of someone else's property taxes hit my account, I'd just have a quick chat with the bank and they'd clear that up. Presumably there'd also be a knock on the door of that property, from the local law enforcement folks.
Why does it have to be a current account. It could aslo be a savings account that does not have checking pri
To ask for someone's bank account number is an odd request, even from a family member. Sure the relative probably won't abuse the information. But that is almost like someone asking for your password. To some that may not feel like a big deal. But to others, it is.

I don't give out my passwords or PIN codes to anyone no matter how they are related to me.

Does the person have an Amazon account? If so, you could just tell the person if they must give you something, get a gift card sent or emailed to you. Probably even easier than using bank numbers.
I do not think that this is an odd request. It may depend on the limits of the sender's etransfer.

I sent my daughter $50K. The easiest way was to do a bank transfer. She gave me her account number, I had my bank transfer that amount to her account.

It was fast, safe, and I only had to do one transaction because there was no per transaction limit.

I truly believe that some people are seeing shadows and imaging that the OP's relative is some sort of a fraudster who will come up with ways to access the account.

Lots of overactive imaginations at work or too much reading about on line fraud stories.

This is NOT about at PIN code, a password, etc...things that I would never pass on to anyone other than my spouse.

Sounds to me like someone who wants to do a relative a good turn. Do not understand why the OP is wrapped around the axle for what appears to be an incredibly simple ask.

If the OP wants to decline then do so. Why make a federal case out of it or imagine all the things that it probably is not? Just say no thank you. Or be offended by the request.


Who has my bank account number? Regular auto deposits ( five), investment advisor, other financial institutions, (four), auto pays (four), taxation folks, and anyone who I have sent a cheque to...for how long I do not know. Only my current account has cheque priviledges.

So, my bank account number is hardly a secret. Morevover, other institutions having it has made my financial life immeasurably easier! I am a stranger at my bank branches.
 
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Reminds me of the time, long ago, when a stranger named Michael Anthony came to the door and handed me a cashier's check for a very large amount of money. He said the only condition was that the donor had to remain anonymous.

Of course I assumed it was a scam and tore up the check. I always wondered about it though ...

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I don't understand why you wouldn't have deposited the check and sat on it for months.. After a few months you can be sure it was legit. If it was a scam, the money would be pulled back out within weeks.
 
Grandchildren only get digital money these days, sending a check complicates things for them.
 
I'm pretty sure if someone handed me a check made out for a significant amount, I'd pursue it to some extent before tearing it up. I'd at least take it to the bank and ask what they thought. Maybe set up a new account to deposit it into if it were really large. If it were drawn on a local bank, you could just go there and ask for cash. They'll be able to tell you whether there are funds in the account to cover it.

The closest I've come is when someone anonymously paid our check at a restaurant. We were just four average adults at a table. None of us looked old or infirmed. We weren't wearing any sort of uniform or insignia. It was a middle-of-the-road family restaurant, not high-end but not Denny's, either.

We spent a lot of time trying to think of what sorts of conversations we'd had which might have been overheard. Did we talk about ill relatives? Did we mention some volunteer work we did? Did anyone mention any sort of money troubles? We came up blank. Maybe they thought it was a random act of kindness, but it was more of a subtle torture, leaving us trying to figure out why.
 
Reminds me of the time, long ago, when a stranger named Michael Anthony came to the door and handed me a cashier's check for a very large amount of money. He said the only condition was that the donor had to remain anonymous.

Of course I assumed it was a scam and tore up the check. I always wondered about it though ...
I would have taken it to the bank. Worst case scenario it's fake, no loss.

Maybe you threw away money for no good reason.
 
Wait, it was a joke, right?
Those of a certain age got it, but as for the rest ...

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It’s funnier if some thought it was real. I could’ve easily missed it by skimming the thread.
 
In the US we tend to use Zelle for most things or our online banking app which will even mail a physical check. Here in Uruguay most everything is by bank transfers and you need acct numbers and data. Although they are starting to use email or cellphone numbers as the link to accounts which is better! But there are many more restrictions on what you can do online and how much money can be dealt with before you have to go into the branch.
 
Not really related, but keep your credit cards away from your kids if they have "sticky fingers". I have a friend whose teenage son stole their card and charged about $5000 on restaurants, etc with his friends.
 
I have done that (ask for my cousin's account number) and sent money, but she lives in Japan, and I didn't know any easy way to send a fairly big chunk of money (5K). She didn't hesitate to share her account info...
 
Not really related, but keep your credit cards away from your kids if they have "sticky fingers". I have a friend whose teenage son stole their card and charged about $5000 on restaurants, etc with his friends.
I can tell you that if that had happened to me the kid would have been reported to police for stealing...

I have taught my kids well and have also said that they will suffer any bad consequences of their decisions... they are adults now and IMO doing well...
 
I can tell you that if that had happened to me the kid would have been reported to police for stealing...

I have taught my kids well and have also said that they will suffer any bad consequences of their decisions... they are adults now and IMO doing well...
If I did that as a teenager, you would never hear from me again!
 
Not really related, but keep your credit cards away from your kids if they have "sticky fingers". I have a friend whose teenage son stole their card and charged about $5000 on restaurants, etc with his friends.

I can tell you that if that had happened to me the kid would have been reported to police for stealing...

I have taught my kids well and have also said that they will suffer any bad consequences of their decisions... they are adults now and IMO doing well...
+1 That's outrageous and the teenage son had to know that what they were doing was wrong. I have to wonder whether the credit card company bears any responsibility. I get warnings all the time if we use the credit card in areas that we don't normally use it, use it for stuff that we don't normally use it for, etc. I'm surprised that the parents didn't get some kind of fraud alert.

I'd also tell the teenager's inheritance would be reduced by x times the fraudulent charges.
 
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