This past weekend DW and I were at a small reunion of about 10 friends/couples who used to work together in a tight-knit company about 10-12 years ago. At the time we met we were all just out of top colleges, very hard working, smart, and ambitious. It was very much a work hard & play hard culture, and I doubt I'll ever work in an evironment with so much raw potential. None of us are still with the company but many of us have stayed in the same city and done well advancing our careers.
Anyways, we were getting together since it had been awhile for some of us, and we now all have at least one child under the age of 2 (DW and I just had our first 4 months ago) so it was a kid-friendly gathering. The interesting part for me was a conversation I heard multiple times from different people. It went along the lines of, "So how's work treating you? Have you shifted into cruise control with your job?? (or will you?)"
This wasn't just about the transition into being a parent and changing work/life priorities, but also the fact that for any of us to advance much further in our careers at this time would take a combination of either 1) a LOT of extra effort, politics, and kissing butts in our current companies for a few years with no guarantees, 2) moving to a new city for the right opportunity if available, 3) an improved economy, or 4) getting VERY lucky to find something better in our current city.
This was especially interesting because as I've started to do some internal & external interviewing for my next job I've hit upon the above realities on my own. It just doesn't seem like taking the next step up the ladder is worth trying for these days, esp once you've already climbed up enough to be comfortable and FIRE should be attainable in <10 years. Note that this doesn't mean reducing the quality of your work, just not striving for continued advancement when opportunity is not really available and there are other priorities.
Does this sound or feel familiar to other Young Dreamers here?? I assume this is pretty common these days, not just for newer parents like me.
Anyways, we were getting together since it had been awhile for some of us, and we now all have at least one child under the age of 2 (DW and I just had our first 4 months ago) so it was a kid-friendly gathering. The interesting part for me was a conversation I heard multiple times from different people. It went along the lines of, "So how's work treating you? Have you shifted into cruise control with your job?? (or will you?)"
This wasn't just about the transition into being a parent and changing work/life priorities, but also the fact that for any of us to advance much further in our careers at this time would take a combination of either 1) a LOT of extra effort, politics, and kissing butts in our current companies for a few years with no guarantees, 2) moving to a new city for the right opportunity if available, 3) an improved economy, or 4) getting VERY lucky to find something better in our current city.
This was especially interesting because as I've started to do some internal & external interviewing for my next job I've hit upon the above realities on my own. It just doesn't seem like taking the next step up the ladder is worth trying for these days, esp once you've already climbed up enough to be comfortable and FIRE should be attainable in <10 years. Note that this doesn't mean reducing the quality of your work, just not striving for continued advancement when opportunity is not really available and there are other priorities.
Does this sound or feel familiar to other Young Dreamers here?? I assume this is pretty common these days, not just for newer parents like me.