SecondCor521
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Hi all.
I just found out about a situation tonight regarding a family friend. They don't know all the details and I therefore don't know all the details.
Apparently her father was on SS disability for a while at a time when she was in high school. The parents applied for and received SS payments for her because the father was disabled and she was a minor. Some of those payments were spent on household bills, some (probably a small minority but I don't know) were given to her.
Somehow the SS payments for her went on too long. SS is now asking/expecting to be repaid.
The parents are telling her that she is going to have to repay these SS benefits. Somewhere along in there she left high school; I think the implication from the parents is that her leaving high school means that she is therefore somehow on the hook.
I told her that in my opinion - no, she didn't ask but I spoke anyway - the parents were the adults in the situation and if there was a mistake then the parents were responsible and therefore they should be dealing with the repayment. She became upset because it dawned on her as a result of this conversation that the parents are probably taking advantage of her.
Questions:
1. Is there any way that legally she is on the hook for repayments? I can't imagine so; the parents must have applied for and received the benefits on her behalf because she was a minor. And she obviously isn't the one responsible for the fact that the payments went on too long.
2. Any way to appeal the pay back of excess benefits? I'm guessing not, but I thought I'd ask. (ETA: I did find this: https://www.ssa.gov/forms/ssa-632-bk.pdf - any advice on trying it?)
3. Probably impossible to answer, but any advice for navigating the social aspect of the fact that I already got involved? I apologized immediately for giving too much advice and offered support and encouragement, but it felt like too little too late, even though it was only five minutes later. She is a good friend. She is young and sometimes might not be fully aware of how the world works. I know "not my circus not my monkeys" but I just don't like it when I sense potential injustice. It sure seems like the parents could be taking advantage of her lack of knowledge and trusting nature.
Thanks.
I just found out about a situation tonight regarding a family friend. They don't know all the details and I therefore don't know all the details.
Apparently her father was on SS disability for a while at a time when she was in high school. The parents applied for and received SS payments for her because the father was disabled and she was a minor. Some of those payments were spent on household bills, some (probably a small minority but I don't know) were given to her.
Somehow the SS payments for her went on too long. SS is now asking/expecting to be repaid.
The parents are telling her that she is going to have to repay these SS benefits. Somewhere along in there she left high school; I think the implication from the parents is that her leaving high school means that she is therefore somehow on the hook.
I told her that in my opinion - no, she didn't ask but I spoke anyway - the parents were the adults in the situation and if there was a mistake then the parents were responsible and therefore they should be dealing with the repayment. She became upset because it dawned on her as a result of this conversation that the parents are probably taking advantage of her.
Questions:
1. Is there any way that legally she is on the hook for repayments? I can't imagine so; the parents must have applied for and received the benefits on her behalf because she was a minor. And she obviously isn't the one responsible for the fact that the payments went on too long.
2. Any way to appeal the pay back of excess benefits? I'm guessing not, but I thought I'd ask. (ETA: I did find this: https://www.ssa.gov/forms/ssa-632-bk.pdf - any advice on trying it?)
3. Probably impossible to answer, but any advice for navigating the social aspect of the fact that I already got involved? I apologized immediately for giving too much advice and offered support and encouragement, but it felt like too little too late, even though it was only five minutes later. She is a good friend. She is young and sometimes might not be fully aware of how the world works. I know "not my circus not my monkeys" but I just don't like it when I sense potential injustice. It sure seems like the parents could be taking advantage of her lack of knowledge and trusting nature.
Thanks.
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