For sitting around and talking, wherein music is not meant to be the center of attention, I found using Earl Klugh or David Sandborn as seeding for itunes produced relatively unobtrusive background music.
Back in the day, “listening to music”, as in, putting an album on (and maybe burning one

), was a regular thing. I still pull up music on the ipad, put in my JBL earbuds, and jam down. Burning one optional. Is that still a thing, or has everyone gone to Sporify or whatever?
According to my iphone, I have 10,834 songs in my library.