Why get remarried at a later age?

[Amethyst]

Interesting list. I do value point #4. Constant might be too strong a word, but it does require working at it to some level, even if it doesn't feel like work. No one wants to be taken for granted. That sometimes can be a trigger point for others to swoop in.

No. 4 is huge. Communication is so key to this, that "communication" is a cliche on these kinds of lists.

Fighting a lot? Hmm, I don't like that. Sure, the gears that grind between 2 individuals may need some, ahem, intensive filing down in the early years...raised voices and tears don't mean the relationship is doomed...but if it's still going on, years into the partnership, then I think something's wrong. I would want to run away.

 

[Amethyst]

Yeah, that sounds like the best for me, but I haven't decided on what type yet.

What worked for me was a friendship - immediate liking - with someone who proved to be a trustworthy, helpful, amusing friend. Then one day - and it really was just that sudden - I realized that there was a whole lot more I liked about him.

 

[Amethyst]

I'm sad for you that it ended that way. I don't think it's ever easy, but some are worse than others.

My compliments on seeing him through to the end.

Thanks. What else could I do? Wouldn't care to go through it again, though.

 

[MarieIG]

Yeah, that sounds like the best for me, but I haven't decided on what type yet.

Yes, I understand that. I suspect, at most, I would be a "black coffee companion." I like to listen, talk to friends, but I'm not much for eating fancy meals, so currently when meeting friends for a "meal" we try to schedule someplace which won't compel me to order more than a black coffee or tea. I could see modest outings from time-to-time, i.e. meeting a friend for a walk in a scenic location, or maybe joining a gym and finding a workout buddy or two.

 

[street]

It will be 42-year partnership for us in June. I think the most important thing in our 42 years success, has been letting each other have our own life, and being ourselves and not trying to change each other's interests.

My interests and hers are on opposite ends but we have mostly the same goals and views are aligned.

We never have argued to speak of, and she has swiped at me through the years a few times and I listen the best I can, and most cases say nothing. I then try do understand her views and work to make each different opinion fit both of us.

I would say we love each the best we can and really has been a great partnership.

Like I posted before I would never say never if my wife passed away.