Hello everyone,
I have just recently found this website, so I thought I would introduce myself to everyone. You can call me Josh. Looking back over things, this is a long first post, but I'm not sure how else to introduce myself and still give make it meaningful.
I am 28 years old. That means almost exactly ten years have gone by since I became a legal adult, and this has caused me to take a hard look at what I have spent the time doing. Ten years, when you think about it, is a lot of time. I could have done a lot in ten years, right? Well, maybe. When I was 18, I wanted to conquer the world, make big bucks, and retire quietly by the time I was 35. I am, of course, no closer to financial independence now than I was ten years ago.
The nebulous financial plans I had at the age of 18 didn't count on a lot of things that have happened between then and now. They didn't have room for me to find the love of my life. They didn't have room for two daughters. They didn't count on being unable to pay for my family and stay in college, or on becoming unemployed for long periods, or on living in a tent in the woods because I couldn't pay for rent. They didn't count on winding up in a small town where the only job I could qualify for would not pay enough after childcare expenses to bother having.
Funny how things happen, isn't it? It doesn't matter if you have a good understanding of compound interest, or you've read books on how to invest in real estate, or if you know other obscure strategies for "making your money work for you" when your biggest worry is whether you'll be able to buy enough gas to make it to the food bank and back this month.
So, enough sob story - where am I now? Well, right now, to recap a bit, I am 28 years old. I have a dedicated, loving wife who has spent several hard years recovering from an illness that left her unable to work or function meaningfully in society. I have two sweet daughters who each have their own special emotional and educational needs. I have been in the US Army for the past three years. Enlisting was the only thing, at the time, that I could think of to do in order to give us a hope of moving forward, and I'm glad I did it. I don't think I had any other choices just then, and now that I see what it's all about, I'm proud to say that I serve my country. I probably would have done it sooner, if I had known what it would be like.
Since this is a financial forum, let me give you a run-down on my status in that area. I currently earn about $2,400 a month after taxes, and though other people at my level complain bitterly about how little money they get, this is more than I have ever made in my life. I have very few bills, as the Army pays for my housing and utilities. I have paid off most of the debts that I incurred in my earlier, confused years, though they're still black marks against my credit.
My current debts are a 5 year car loan (been paying for about a year so far) that runs me $280 a month and about $3,000 +/- worth of maxed out credit cards that sap a few hundred a month for payments but never actually get paid off. My credit score still hovers right around 600 due to my poor use of credit cards and what seems to be an unending stream of things from the "bad years" that still surface when I'm least suspecting it and land on my credit report. I have nothing saved for emergencies or towards retirement.
I should be happy that things are at least stable for me and my family right now. At the very least, I don't have to worry about getting laid off any time soon. Instead, I seem to spend a lot of time mourning what I failed to accomplish over the last ten years. I feel like I have failed my family, because I have not been able to provide them with a better life, and I feel like I continue to fail them because I let us give in to short term desires rather than plan for our future.
I've told people that I am thinking about "doing my 20" in the Army, so I can retire with my pension. It's a hard job, but it's satisfying, and I like a lot of my work, so it might not be a bad deal, but the question I often get asked is, "What kind of job will you get when you get out?"
My response is something like slack-jawed amazement. Why in the world would I spend twenty years in a demanding profession just so I could start a whole new career at the age of 45? Yet, many people do this. They separate from the military after twenty years and then have to go live with their parents while they look for work because they have nothing saved, and their retirement pay isn't enough to live on. How can this happen?
Well, look at me - almost three years in the Army so far and almost nothing to show for it but some consumer debt and a depreciating asset. Spooky. That means if I want to make a career out of this, I have 17 years left to get myself in gear, or I'll be right there looking for a handout when I leave. And that's assuming I can stay in for 20 full years anyway. Maybe I'll get fed up with the constant deployments. Maybe I'll hurt myself in a car accident and get kicked out on medical grounds. Maybe a hostile supervisor will decide to ruin my career out of spite. Anything could happen. And then where will I be, if I have nothing prepared?
Anyway, that's where I am right now. I'm momentarily stable, but I've suddenly realized that it could all be temporary at best or an illusion at worst.
One of my biggest shake-ups has been discovering quite recently that I have a bad habit of spending money on my family for pointless reasons. It's like I have to justify why I'm here by providing for every whim. If I'm not giving them something, then I am useless. I suppose it's kind of inevitable as a sort of back-lash from what we've been through, but I now recognize that it's a toxic feedback loop that will never help us to get ahead or become secure, so I've been trying to put it behind me and quash urges to spend (usually on credit!) for stuff we don't really need just to prove to myself that I am a good husband/father who is able to provide for his family. Knowing what I'm facing has made a surprising difference, but it still takes work.
So... I don't exactly know where I'm going from here, but I figure dipping back into some educational sites, books, and communities will be a good start. It's been a while since I read up on any of this stuff, and I've forgotten most of what I ever knew.
Maybe the re-education effort will focus my mind. I don't know. We have some things going for us, but we still face challenges. My wife thinks the concept of financial independence that I have held on to for years is just something unrealistic that gets marketed on late night infomercials. She agrees that we need to start putting away for our retirement, but it's more of a vague, "that's a good idea" thing for when we are in our advanced old age. It's not something that makes her wake up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night wondering whether or not I'm going to waste what could be the best years of my life doing menial labor for someone else's gain.
I notice most of the people introducing themselves here are already established professionals with hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of assets to their names. I'm not drowning in debt, but I don't really have any assets, either. Surely some of you folks started where I am, right?
I have seen scarcity. I don't want to go back there. Ever. I want to collect my "wages" in the mail right along with my bills. I want to own my time again. I have too many ideas and too much to do! I can't afford to be saddled with a job my whole life. I don't have to be ridiculously rich. I just want to be independent. Is it too late to start?
Josh
I have just recently found this website, so I thought I would introduce myself to everyone. You can call me Josh. Looking back over things, this is a long first post, but I'm not sure how else to introduce myself and still give make it meaningful.
I am 28 years old. That means almost exactly ten years have gone by since I became a legal adult, and this has caused me to take a hard look at what I have spent the time doing. Ten years, when you think about it, is a lot of time. I could have done a lot in ten years, right? Well, maybe. When I was 18, I wanted to conquer the world, make big bucks, and retire quietly by the time I was 35. I am, of course, no closer to financial independence now than I was ten years ago.
The nebulous financial plans I had at the age of 18 didn't count on a lot of things that have happened between then and now. They didn't have room for me to find the love of my life. They didn't have room for two daughters. They didn't count on being unable to pay for my family and stay in college, or on becoming unemployed for long periods, or on living in a tent in the woods because I couldn't pay for rent. They didn't count on winding up in a small town where the only job I could qualify for would not pay enough after childcare expenses to bother having.
Funny how things happen, isn't it? It doesn't matter if you have a good understanding of compound interest, or you've read books on how to invest in real estate, or if you know other obscure strategies for "making your money work for you" when your biggest worry is whether you'll be able to buy enough gas to make it to the food bank and back this month.
So, enough sob story - where am I now? Well, right now, to recap a bit, I am 28 years old. I have a dedicated, loving wife who has spent several hard years recovering from an illness that left her unable to work or function meaningfully in society. I have two sweet daughters who each have their own special emotional and educational needs. I have been in the US Army for the past three years. Enlisting was the only thing, at the time, that I could think of to do in order to give us a hope of moving forward, and I'm glad I did it. I don't think I had any other choices just then, and now that I see what it's all about, I'm proud to say that I serve my country. I probably would have done it sooner, if I had known what it would be like.
Since this is a financial forum, let me give you a run-down on my status in that area. I currently earn about $2,400 a month after taxes, and though other people at my level complain bitterly about how little money they get, this is more than I have ever made in my life. I have very few bills, as the Army pays for my housing and utilities. I have paid off most of the debts that I incurred in my earlier, confused years, though they're still black marks against my credit.
My current debts are a 5 year car loan (been paying for about a year so far) that runs me $280 a month and about $3,000 +/- worth of maxed out credit cards that sap a few hundred a month for payments but never actually get paid off. My credit score still hovers right around 600 due to my poor use of credit cards and what seems to be an unending stream of things from the "bad years" that still surface when I'm least suspecting it and land on my credit report. I have nothing saved for emergencies or towards retirement.
I should be happy that things are at least stable for me and my family right now. At the very least, I don't have to worry about getting laid off any time soon. Instead, I seem to spend a lot of time mourning what I failed to accomplish over the last ten years. I feel like I have failed my family, because I have not been able to provide them with a better life, and I feel like I continue to fail them because I let us give in to short term desires rather than plan for our future.
I've told people that I am thinking about "doing my 20" in the Army, so I can retire with my pension. It's a hard job, but it's satisfying, and I like a lot of my work, so it might not be a bad deal, but the question I often get asked is, "What kind of job will you get when you get out?"
My response is something like slack-jawed amazement. Why in the world would I spend twenty years in a demanding profession just so I could start a whole new career at the age of 45? Yet, many people do this. They separate from the military after twenty years and then have to go live with their parents while they look for work because they have nothing saved, and their retirement pay isn't enough to live on. How can this happen?
Well, look at me - almost three years in the Army so far and almost nothing to show for it but some consumer debt and a depreciating asset. Spooky. That means if I want to make a career out of this, I have 17 years left to get myself in gear, or I'll be right there looking for a handout when I leave. And that's assuming I can stay in for 20 full years anyway. Maybe I'll get fed up with the constant deployments. Maybe I'll hurt myself in a car accident and get kicked out on medical grounds. Maybe a hostile supervisor will decide to ruin my career out of spite. Anything could happen. And then where will I be, if I have nothing prepared?
Anyway, that's where I am right now. I'm momentarily stable, but I've suddenly realized that it could all be temporary at best or an illusion at worst.
One of my biggest shake-ups has been discovering quite recently that I have a bad habit of spending money on my family for pointless reasons. It's like I have to justify why I'm here by providing for every whim. If I'm not giving them something, then I am useless. I suppose it's kind of inevitable as a sort of back-lash from what we've been through, but I now recognize that it's a toxic feedback loop that will never help us to get ahead or become secure, so I've been trying to put it behind me and quash urges to spend (usually on credit!) for stuff we don't really need just to prove to myself that I am a good husband/father who is able to provide for his family. Knowing what I'm facing has made a surprising difference, but it still takes work.
So... I don't exactly know where I'm going from here, but I figure dipping back into some educational sites, books, and communities will be a good start. It's been a while since I read up on any of this stuff, and I've forgotten most of what I ever knew.
Maybe the re-education effort will focus my mind. I don't know. We have some things going for us, but we still face challenges. My wife thinks the concept of financial independence that I have held on to for years is just something unrealistic that gets marketed on late night infomercials. She agrees that we need to start putting away for our retirement, but it's more of a vague, "that's a good idea" thing for when we are in our advanced old age. It's not something that makes her wake up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night wondering whether or not I'm going to waste what could be the best years of my life doing menial labor for someone else's gain.
I notice most of the people introducing themselves here are already established professionals with hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of assets to their names. I'm not drowning in debt, but I don't really have any assets, either. Surely some of you folks started where I am, right?
I have seen scarcity. I don't want to go back there. Ever. I want to collect my "wages" in the mail right along with my bills. I want to own my time again. I have too many ideas and too much to do! I can't afford to be saddled with a job my whole life. I don't have to be ridiculously rich. I just want to be independent. Is it too late to start?
Josh