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Old 11-28-2007, 11:23 AM   #61
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You make a lot of sense. One of DW's friends is a family practice therapist, and she believes if some people put as much time into their marriages as they do buying a car, more marriages would be saved..........
Also, people tend to think that getting out of a difficult marriage will alleviate their stress and make their life better. Doesn't always happen that way. Often you trade one set of problems for another, and some are equally painful.
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Old 11-28-2007, 01:36 PM   #62
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You make a lot of sense. One of DW's friends is a family practice therapist, and she believes if some people put as much time into their marriages as they do buying a car, more marriages would be saved..........
Yes, but you can always rent a car.

And they don't turn you down just because you're not hot enough or not rich enough or because you already have a car...

Boy, we could torture this analogy for weeks.
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There have been some really great posts here. You are not alone Raygun. This little play has been performed many, many times in America. To start let me submit to you the following quote. I have found it to be accurate and inspiring.

"Man...every man is an end in himself, not the means to the ends of others. He must exist for his own sake, neither sacrificing himself to others, nor sacrificing others to himself. The persuit of his own rational self interest and of his own hapiness is the highest moral purpose of his life".

The question really becomes in your situation... Who's life are you really living right now. Why is it that your children and your wife think that your only purpose is to support their needs at the expense of your own needs? Are your life and desires somehow less important than theirs? Certainly not. Simply put... life is just too short to remain miserable. I need to include here that I am not married, nor do I have children. But I would like to think that if my wife and children loved me, and I told them I was unhappy for some reason, that the first repose would be... "What can I do to help that?".
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Armor, is that Ayn Rand? I like it.

And on a less lofty note, my DH and I have a saying, along the lines of "if you aren't making my life better, you're making it worse" applied to one another. We try to be the solution, not the problem. because god knows there are enough people out there creating problems for us!
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Yes Sarah... it is a quote from Ayn Rand. Unfortunately at times like Raygun is experiencing it is a very emotional situation. And more often than not... at least for me anyway... "passion rules over reason". Sometimes it helps to take a step back and see what you can see from the objective point of view... Sometimes when you take the emotion out of the equation it can help you see what you should do.
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Yes, but you can always rent a car.

And they don't turn you down just because you're not hot enough or not rich enough or because you already have a car...

Boy, we could torture this analogy for weeks.
I'm "lucky" to be married...........
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if some people put as much time into their marriages as they do buying a car
Looking at one on a web site and clicking "buy"
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Looking at one on a web site and clicking "buy"
Not like YOU buy, like most people do,with the endless hours spent in dealerships,etc............
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You bought your wife from a dealership?
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Good one, Al.

I thought you might chime in that he should have gotten the undercoat and rustproofing. You went in a different direction!
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If we could just lease spouses instead of purchasing life would be better !
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I had a girlfriend once that thought 5 year contracts with free agency would be a pretty good way to go.
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You make a lot of sense. One of DW's friends is a family practice therapist, and she believes if some people put as much time into their marriages as they do buying a car, more marriages would be saved..........
My car just waits around patiently for me to turn her on and drive her...
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My car just waits around patiently for me to turn her on and drive her...
And sits quietly in the garage for several days with no attention.
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