M Paquette
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Not me, I have better ways to waste time. Besides, all I keep thinking about is the opening scenes from Idiocracy - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
OK, THAT goes to the top of the Netflix queue.
Yow.
Not me, I have better ways to waste time. Besides, all I keep thinking about is the opening scenes from Idiocracy - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
I thought that when I met someone I really loved that my mind would change about it and I would want to have kids with that person, but that simply was not the case.
Except those people who got sterilized so they could "reduce their carbon footprint".
$%^& you, you &*()ing %^&*er, I bet it happens in one more post...Anyone want to start a pool on how many posts this thread will go prior to being closed? Maybe a secondary bet on when the personal insults and name calling will start?
Spouse is out for the day and unlikely to read this post. Whew.
Reflecting back on nearly four decades of [-]hormones[/-] choices, I'd have to say that most of my significant life decisions were made on the basis of [-]hormones[/-] "What if?"
As in, "What if I don't join the Navy?" "How will I feel in 30 years if I don't try the Naval Academy?" "What if I don't try to get into the submarine force?" "What if I don't get married?"* "What if you don't look for a job after leaving the service?" "What if you don't take this opportunity to hike Haleakala crater?"
So naturally when the conversation turned to [-]a romantic beach-cabin weekend[/-] "Hey, honey, you're coming up on shore duty and maybe we could get a little head start on our family...**", my instinctive response was [-]hormones[/-] "What if we don't have kids?"
Well, I've sure found out the answers to those questions. And in general, they haven't killed me yet-- so I must be a better person now.
* Well, to be fair, the Navy answered that question for me: "Then you won't be able to live with your fiancée for at least two more years!"
** Luckily I had this conversation with my spouse first.
$%^& you, you &*()ing %^&*er, I bet it happens in one more post...
I'd like to read that, do you still have the link?But interestingly, the study above shows more highly educated women are more likely today to have children than they were 30 years ago (of course, as at the end of Idiocracy, they are probably having only one or two vs. the great unwashed having half a dozen):
I'll gladly let them. It's their choice, and I think the gene pool will be better of without their contribution.If that is how they really feel, let them! This is more responsible than many other practices
The fourth box of the quadrant is "people who want kids and would be great parents, but things don't work out". My best friend from grade school and his wife are in this position. They got married at 23 and were hoping for several kids. This year they had their silver wedding anniversary and they're too old now.People who want kids are probably happier with them. People who don't want them are probably happier without them. The only downside I can see is for the kids who have parents who don't want them.
Did they never consider adoption? Maybe I'm wired differently than most, but I've never understood the importance some people place on insisting that their children must come from their own DNA.The really sad thing, to DW and me anyway, is that they never went for medical help. They decided that if they couldn't get pregnant without assistance, it was God's will. Now I can see why some people might draw the line at IVF, but they didn't even go to see if it was a blocked tube or something. (Another reason DW and I are glad to be non-religious.)
No idea, although I don't think DW and I would have been keen to adopt if our reproductive systems hadn't been functioningDid they never consider adoption? Maybe I'm wired differently than most, but I've never understood the importance some people place on insisting that their children must come from their own DNA.
Well, of course, some religions don't like those last two either; but IVF is specifically considered to be "gravely evil" by the Catholic Church, and that's over a billion people they're talking to. In fact it seems to me that the whole point of most religions is that there are certain rules which you stick to no matter what other evidence may be suggesting to you, because the doctrine tells you that that evidence should be ignored in favour of faith (and may ndeed have been put there by Satan specifically to test such faith, which sort of reminds me of how conspiracy theories work).And I don't believe the "God's will" stuff. Even if one is a believer, if God didn't want us to have the abilities to advance in science and medicine, He wouldn't have given us those skills. IVF is no more "playing God", IMO, than heart bypass surgery or taking antibiotics.
I liked "Idiocracy" too, but then again I consider the public to be dumbasses. I know its a personal flaw and I really am trying to work on it.
The trouble with being a parent is this: There is no try it before you buy it period. Sure, you can babysit and all that, but you really need a good 1 year [-]sentence[/-] trial period to be sure.
Can't return the kid after 1 year tho.