audreyh1
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Yeah - I think that there are just so many outliers from "typical trends" that studies like this often aren't very applicable to one's personal life. I know very few couples who are traditional in many ways - my family was never traditional, and my husband and I certainly are not traditional at all in our family roles. But most of our friends are odd-balls as well, so who notices?Study is probably true in that it relates to the general and not the specific. But interesting to look at couples, whether people you know or just random strangers, and think they got married because he's powerful and she's hot. Most couples I know do not fit either of these definitions and never did.
If I were dating today at my age, I wouldn't give a whit about a guy's salary before hopping into bed with him.
I'm sure if you are already an outlier, you tend to socialize with other outliers. And then you just don't run into "typical" life much.
When I decided in my late teens that I wanted to be an electrical engineer - that pretty much blasted through any "expected stuff" for the rest of my life - social life, work life, university life, all of it. Of course I was already used to being different, being the only girl in calculus and physics in high school. When I got out of high school - I was finally free of the prison of social expectations, where people were uncomfortable if you deviated from the "norm". After an odd-ball childhood, engineering school was the first place I actually started to feel like I fit in, and that was wonderful.
Audrey