My first question is-- where are the pictures, and when are you going to post them? No, no, I'm referring to the party... ho-ho-ho indeed.
Laurence said:
I think telling DW would lead to unneeded drama. Thoughts?
Like T-Al says, tell her now. (Put down the mouse and walk over to her as soon as you finish reading this thread!!) You haven't imagined the worst-case scenario. "Unneeded drama" is nothing compared to the drama of NOT telling your wife.
Years ago I was best man at an out-of-control bachelor party (yeah, I know, redundant.) while spouse attended the bachelorette's party. When I staggered home (around 4 AM, a few hours before showtime) we compared notes. I started with "Wow, they were it was awesome!" and furnished a full report. Hilarity ensued, along with other things, and we eventually tried to sober up catch up on our sleep.
The groom, in a similar situation with his cohabitating fiancée, said "Oh, it was nothing special." (Funny, it didn't appear to be "nothing special" when the stripper was slicing him out of his underwear. But I digress.) I think they both tried to sober up catch up on their sleep.
Later that pre-nuptial morning in the synagogue, with the rabbi & guests all standing by, the bride was fussing with her attire and asked my spouse "So, how did your husband enjoy last night?" My spouse replied "It was awesome!" and furnished a full report.
Chaos ensued. The wedding eventually proceeded but in retrospect it shouldn't have.
So, Laurence, you can remain silent. But inevitably someone is sure to mention that night to your "relative" or even worse, to your spouse, or your cousin-in-law might even feel obligated to apologize to your spouse. Those would not be good moments for your spouse to be hearing about it for the first time. Your silence would not be interpreted as nobly shielding spouse from "unneeded drama".
Another nightmare scenario-- your CIL would monitor subsequent events, learn that you haven't said a thing to your spouse, and interpret
that as an offer to proceed further with her conquest. When that campaign meets its inevitable conclusion and the critique is held, you don't want to be discussing it with your wife using phrases like "Well, I haven't mentioned this to you before" and "Last year at the Christmas party"...
Besides, far better for your CIL to receive a stinkeye or two from your wife. That behavior definitely earned it.
I sure hope this CIL isn't related to any of your
Wisconsin butt-kicking relatives...
Laurence said:
I helped her to the guest bed and got her to sleep.
I don't wanna know either. But if I were you, I'd be the one doing the guest-bedroom laundry...
So, is CIL on the guest list for 2006? And speaking of guest lists, let me know what I should bring next year!