Eating Food Just Because "It's Paid For"

[Amethyst]

I read an essay, probably in The New Yorker, by a woman whose elderly parents moved into a CCRC where daily communal dinner was included in the price. Even though they had their own kitchen, shopped for groceries, were physically able to cook for themselves, didn't enjoy communal dining - and above all, didn't like the bland, buttery food that was served - they dutifully ate it night after night because they were paying for it. The author attributed this to her parents being lifelong thrifty New Englanders.

I just wondered if anyone here would eat food they didn't particularly care for, even if other options existed, simply because the food was free or "paid for."

Amethyst

 

[easysurfer]

Did somebody just say all you can eat buffet?

 

[WhoDaresWins]

In lieu of cooking, I might go down to the already-paid-for dinner and pick at what I wanted to eat...just like in the college cafeteria of yore. Maybe the parents like the socialization more with other residents than they are willing to admit, too. I think it if you choose to move to a residential community, it is good to mingle a bit and meet other folks.

 

[aaronc879]

I would take the free food. I do contract work and when i'm on a job I get free food every day. I'm usually on the job site for 2-3 weeks straight(24 hrs/day) and never have to go buy groceries or make my own food. I almost am sad when I have to go back home. I always take free food. If someone wants to make the food for me too, that's even better.

 

[calmloki]

I clean my plate at home. Waste not... Now in an all you can stomach buffet, if something is just not good I'll eat the substantial part (say, the chicken in a pot pie) and hunt for something better.

 

[Ronstar]

I would take the free food up to a point. We normally take the free breakfasts at inexpensive hotels for a few days before going out for a breakfast that we have to pay for.

 

[Amethyst]

We usually like the free breakfasts. It's hard to ruin cereal, scrambled eggs, yogurt, etc.! We also had excellent free buffets at an "extended stay" hotel when we were about to go overseas, and felt sad like Aaron does when we had to leave it all behind But that was good food, not bland buttery pablum.

Amethyst

I would take the free food up to a point. We normally take the free breakfasts at inexpensive hotels for a few days before going out for a breakfast that we have to pay for.

 

[lemming]

You say buttery like it is a bad thing.
I worry about not liking the food in a CC restaurant if they have to restrict salt/fat/red meat for the majority.
But yes I can see going out for the meal since it is a big part of my monthly costs. I am cheap that way. and I'm not that good a cook.

 

[FUEGO]

Even though they had their own kitchen, shopped for groceries, were physically able to cook for themselves, didn't enjoy communal dining - and above all, didn't like the bland, buttery food that was served - they dutifully ate it night after night because they were paying for it. The author attributed this to her parents being lifelong thrifty New Englanders.

I just wondered if anyone here would eat food they didn't particularly care for, even if other options existed, simply because the food was free or "paid for."

If I didn't like it I probably wouldn't eat it very often unless I was lazy and didn't feel like cooking or going somewhere that served food that was actually good.

For some reason Golden Corral comes to mind as being similar to the retirement community's dining room. The food is never great, but there's usually something that's edible (if just barely). Not a place I would really want to go to even if someone else is paying, but I'll eat there on the rare occasions when duty requires it (family requests mainly). I'll eat just enough to not be hungry and not pig out like at good buffets.

I love buffets, but only when the food is good. Lots of bad food doesn't make it taste better.

So assuming I could afford to buy my own groceries and had the strength to do so and cook my own meals, I'd probably do that instead of visiting the mediocre dining room even if it was free.

 

[WhoDaresWins]

A wheel-chair bound, mentally and physically disabled cousin of mine lives in a personal care home where the residents are undoubtedly more impaired than most folks in a CCRC community. I see the menus and they get things like choice of oatmeal, eggs, French toast, fruit for breakfast. For lunch it is almost always soup, sandwich, jello, maybe fruit cocktail. Dinner varies and includes things like spaghetti with meat sauce, baked chicken, ham slice, assorted vegetables, salad, cheesecake, applesauce, etc. Beverages are coffee, tea, milk, juices. I know they will make pureed foods for residents who can't eat the regular menu, too. On holidays they have barbecues for the residents and they celebrate birthdays with cake and ice cream.

 

[rbmrtn]

I would probably take the free food. I guess it would depend on what was being served but free would count for a lot.

 

[Chuckanut]

and above all, didn't like the bland,

How in the world does one make buttery food bland? They must be awful cooks.

 

[Bestwifeever]

I am sure we would eat the meals that were already paid for.

 

[Midpack]

I am sure we would eat the meals that were already paid for.

+1. Breakfast included at a hotel would be good example for us, it's unlikely we'd pass and pay for another breakfast somewhere else. But if something I've paid for tastes awful, whether included in some package or even at a restaurant, I won't eat it.

 

[athena53]

We usually like the free breakfasts. It's hard to ruin cereal, scrambled eggs, yogurt, etc.!

Wanna bet? Yogurt flavored with high fructose corn syrup. Hockey-puck "scrambled eggs" made from powdered. Too-sweet flavored oatmeal packets. Canned fruit cocktail. "Bagels" that are hard rolls with a hole in the middle. I always hope for bananas, hard-boiled eggs and plain oatmeal which I can sweeten to my taste.

I know I sound picky but I love good food (defined as good quality basic ingredients with little processing). I eat the other stuff only if I'm starving.

So no, I wouldn't eat food "just because it's paid for" and if the food at a retirement community were that bad I'd make sure everything else was exactly what I wanted or go elsewhere. I avoid buffets, too. They're either cheap with greasy, starchy food or so high-priced that they make a huge profit on me because i'm not an overeater.

 

[GrayHare]

I just wondered if anyone here would eat food they didn't particularly care for, even if other options existed, simply because the food was free or "paid for."

a college meal plan comes to mind, students usually didn't go on food stamps in those days

 

[splitwdw]

Nope, I wouldn't eat food I didn't like for dinner or any other meal. If I buy food and don't like the taste I'll first try to give it to someone else before throwing out. If I'm dining out and don't like the meal I'd return it and ask that it be removed from my bill. That only happened once.....too much pepper. My sister on the other hand will eat anything. I've heard her comment that she doesn't like the taste of something she bought but is sitting there eating it. Sorry, a sour tasting or dry fruit, an egg that's not cooked completely, UGH I remember being at someone's house for dinner, just spaghetti, and the pasta wasn't cooked. Ever bite into hard pasta. Yuck! I ate salad, meatballs and bread. There were "looks" exchanged but no one said anything.

 

[Bestwifeever]

I love good food too but if I am buying something that includes meals, I am either picking a place that offers good if simple food, or I am picking a place that has a price that does not include meals. No way am I paying twice. The daughter in OP's article and her parents should be raising hell if the food is that bad, or going to another facility.

 

[unclemick]

I am 71. I still have memories of age 18 summer work in a logging camp. I ate until sitting awhile was required before getting up from the table. Didn't gain a pound all summer.

Thursday was all you could eat steak night.

heh heh heh - even the nominal deduct from the paycheck didn't cover the camp operation. I think it was the last one in that part of SW Washington.

 

[Moemg]

My Mom lives in an independent facility and complains about the food . I really think it is what all the residents do since she fessed up and told me they will make you alternate dishes if you do not like the food and that the food is not that bad. She absolutely enjoys the social aspect and as for her kitchen it makes a camper kitchen look luxurious. Just cooking toast in that kitchen is a chore .

 

[FUEGO]

The daughter in OP's article and her parents should be raising hell if the food is that bad, or going to another facility.

I haven't read the article, but it might be a case of the daughter using her judgment of what's great food and using her own standards to evaluate her parents' dining hall food. Although maybe that's the kind of food her parents like. Pure speculation, but I can certainly say there's a difference in what my grandma calls delicious and what I call delicious.

Some of what we eat makes her say "ewww" and vice versa is true, too.

 

[Bestwifeever]

Good point--there isn't a link to an article so who knows--maybe the parents really don't mind the food but the daughter just needed something to write about for some publication

 

[WhoDaresWins]

I love good food too but if I am buying something that includes meals, I am either picking a place that offers good if simple food, or I am picking a place that has a price that does not include meals. No way am I paying twice. The daughter in OP's article and her parents should be raising hell if the food is that bad, or going to another facility.

Agreed. I can't imagine moving to a place where meals are included and having no idea of the menus or buffet/salad bar options.

 

[haha]

I read an essay, probably in The New Yorker, by a woman whose elderly parents moved into a CCRC where daily communal dinner was included in the price. Even though they had their own kitchen, shopped for groceries, were physically able to cook for themselves, didn't enjoy communal dining - and above all, didn't like the bland, buttery food that was served - they dutifully ate it night after night because they were paying for it. The author attributed this to her parents being lifelong thrifty New Englanders.

I just wondered if anyone here would eat food they didn't particularly care for, even if other options existed, simply because the food was free or "paid for."

Amethyst

As a veteran of this board, you know that someone would for sure, but not me. That equates to turning your body into a dispose-all. There is someone somewhere who if he had a gun and a cartridge, he would shoot himself so the bullet cartridge would not go to waste.

Ha

 

[Goonie]

+1. Breakfast included at a hotel would be good example for us, it's unlikely we'd pass and pay for another breakfast somewhere else. But if something I've paid for tastes awful, whether included in some package or even at a restaurant, I won't eat it.

Between the normally over-crowded hotel breakfast rooms and the typically mediocre food offered there, we will gladly head out to a restaurant for a good, relaxing, non-crowded breakfast. In fact we did just that a little over a week ago while on a trip. The hotel breakfast area was noisy, crowded, and since we'd eaten there before, we knew that the food was just so-so.

?...I know I sound picky but I love good food (defined as good quality basic ingredients with little processing). I eat the other stuff only if I'm starving.

So no, I wouldn't eat food "just because it's paid for" and if the food at a retirement community were that bad I'd make sure everything else was exactly what I wanted or go elsewhere. I avoid buffets, too. They're either cheap with greasy, starchy food or so high-priced that they make a huge profit on me because i'm not an overeater.

+1

I love good (great) tasting food, prepared with good quality, healthy ingredients. I'm not picky, I just don't settle for mediocre, and I prefer not to eat unhealthy crap. And as for buffets, someone else can have my parking space and seat! Most of them are over-priced, unappetizing, and in my opinion, just plain nasty!

I prefer to do my own food prep and cooking, and would prefer to continue doing that if I lived in an assisted living community or similar place, even if the meals that they provided were included in the overall price.