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How do you feel about guests calling to ask if they can bring a few extra people to your party ?
No, no and no!
It would depend on who and why. For example, a niece is in the Navy, and if she were to be traveling by with a friend also in the service I would not mind the niece bringing her friend. It would be offensive not to extend the invitation to include the friend.
But if it was someone trying to use our hospitality to repay their social obligations, then no, no, a thousand times no! Or someone just trying to use our party to include their friends to extend the interactions to those they know they will like, then no to that also.
+1. We always have a small group over for Thanksgiving. Two years ago, one of our guests called to cancel because she had an unexpected house guest. I told her to bring her friend over and all had a great time. These type of circumstances would be the only ones acceptable to me.
That is great because she gave you the option . She did not just say I am bringing a friend .
How do you feel about guests calling to ask if they can bring a few extra people to your party ?
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What is irritating is we have one daughter that is ALWAYS one hour late to the event, no matter what it is. Typical excuse is "too busy, couldn't get ready to leave in time, etc".
I think we have different scenarios in mind. College parties and social graces are governed by different social norms.It depends. Back in my college days and up to early 30's - friends and I would host big blow out parties... 30+ people - sometimes up to 100... The more the merrier in that scenario. Those days are long behind me.
... ...What is irritating is we have one daughter that is ALWAYS one hour late to the event, no matter what it is. Typical excuse is "too busy, couldn't get ready to leave in time, etc".
When I was younger it was fun to have strangers come to your party but that was when a party consisted of beer and chips & dip . Now parties are dinner parties with a lot of expense and work so I am less than thrilled when someone calls to say they are bringing someone else or a few extra people .It is rude . Throw your own party .
How do you feel about guests calling to ask if they can bring a few extra people to your party ?