brewer12345
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Thanks for all the helpful suggestions and support. I will have to see how much I can implement in my life as it stands.
Boy howdy Brewer I can relate.
Right now my shizz sandwich is late stage Alzheimer's (my momma) and cancer (DH). If one is not on my mind, the other is...even when I wake up in the middle of the night.
There are two pieces of advice I have received that have helped me. I've been told...
"When you know you've done the best you can, that is when you can sleep well at night. Some things can not be fixed....they are out of your hands."
"In an abnormal situation it is normal to feel sad and down." Somehow knowing the way I feel now is normal helps me. It seems to take some pressure off.
One more thing...I've learned it's ok to cry and not feel weak, and it's ok to laugh and not feel guilty.
My best to you Brewer...
I suppose that I am not a fundamentally happy person, given life and choices to date. However, lately there has been a collection of bad outcomes (major illness for DW's and my dads, work turning very toxic in a short time, one dog dying another on a short timeline, etc.) and I would greatly appreciate hearing how others deal with tough times in their lives. I am not a terribly religious personfor all that I went to a Catholic high school and was confirmed, and seeking solace in liquid form is not a long term solution. I am also not real interested in counseling. What else does one do? How do you make peace with things when life turns into one big sh!t sandwich?
I was going to say what bbbamI said. Maybe men don't cry as much as women, but maybe they should a little. You should actually feel what you are feeling, without any anti-depressants, alcohol or drugs of any kind, and then a good cry sometimes just helps relieve the built up feelings that you really can't describe...feelings that you only can feel.
We guys just resent having our emotions manipulated...Maybe men don't cry as much as women, but maybe they should a little. You should actually feel what you are feeling, without any anti-depressants, alcohol or drugs of any kind, and then a good cry sometimes just helps relieve the built up feelings that you really can't describe...feelings that you only can feel.
Leaving New Jersey-- the solution can't be that easy, can it?Best to you my fellow New Jerseyan.
Might not work, but when friends of mine are down, I sometimes ask them (when I think I already know the answer), 'is this the worst thing that's ever happened to you?'When I'm experiencing the down side of life, I remind myself that there are a lot of people that have it rougher than I do.
Seems to make the down times go by easier. I hope yours go by easier as well.