mountainsoft
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We got a message on Saturday that my mom had a stroke. She laid on her floor for five days before she was able to call for help. She was taken to the hospital for a few days, then placed in a rehab center where she is now. A "friend" of hers finally contacted me Saturday to let me know.
Mom cut off all contact with her friends and family over 20 years ago. I haven't seen her in at last 20 years, and know nothing about her life. Turns out she has been hiding out in her home, only leaving once every month or two to get groceries. The house is filthy, cluttered, and looks abandoned from the outside. Paperwork is spread everywhere, no organization to have any clue where she is at financially.
We spent the last three days making the two hour drive over to see her, first just trying to see how she was doing, and to try reconnecting after 20 years apart. But we haven't talked to any doctors or staff to know what the situation is.
So, now I need to get past the social stage and try and figure out what real world steps I need to do from here. Since mom hasn't had any contact with me in 20+ years, I don't know if she even WANTS me in control of her situation. She's having difficulty speaking after the stroke, so we haven't been able to have any serious conversations so far.
I am totally lost and overwhelmed. I don't know what steps need to be taken to move forward. I can't sleep, I've got massive headaches, and I'm exhausted from 4-5 hours of driving everyday. I had to stay home today to try and get some clarity.
I'm her only child. She has no other friends or family.
What now?
Mom cut off all contact with her friends and family over 20 years ago. I haven't seen her in at last 20 years, and know nothing about her life. Turns out she has been hiding out in her home, only leaving once every month or two to get groceries. The house is filthy, cluttered, and looks abandoned from the outside. Paperwork is spread everywhere, no organization to have any clue where she is at financially.
We spent the last three days making the two hour drive over to see her, first just trying to see how she was doing, and to try reconnecting after 20 years apart. But we haven't talked to any doctors or staff to know what the situation is.
So, now I need to get past the social stage and try and figure out what real world steps I need to do from here. Since mom hasn't had any contact with me in 20+ years, I don't know if she even WANTS me in control of her situation. She's having difficulty speaking after the stroke, so we haven't been able to have any serious conversations so far.
I am totally lost and overwhelmed. I don't know what steps need to be taken to move forward. I can't sleep, I've got massive headaches, and I'm exhausted from 4-5 hours of driving everyday. I had to stay home today to try and get some clarity.
I'm her only child. She has no other friends or family.
What now?