Calgary_Girl
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I'm not sure why this bothers me so much so I'd thought I'd use this as my ranting board!
I have an acquaintance who feels like she needs to save the world by allowing friends who are financially struggling live with her, her DH and their 3 children. I feel like her "friends" are taking advantage of her generosity. I feel like a scrooge but I don't think I'd be as generous as my acquaintance who is always complaining that her family lives check to check but yet she is financially supporting so-called moochers?
Case in point:
1. Acquaintance is an American citizen living in Canada (DH is Canadian). She is allowing an American friend (20 yrs old) with an 8 month old baby live with her family until she gets on her feet financially. I questioned her how the moocher is going to get back on her feet because she is not legally allowed to work in Canada (she lied at the border and told them she is only visiting for a month or two). I guess the answer is to get a job that pays cash only?
2. Moocher does not pay rent, doesn't contribute anything to the household in lieu of rent (i.e. cooking, laundry, cleaning, etc) to earn her keep. Said moocher is perfectly happy not looking for a job and just sponging off people.
3. Moocher expects acquaintance to buy diapers and formula for her 8 month old as well as feed her nicotine addiction since moocher has no money and no job.
4. Moocher's long term plan is to get pregnant by a nice Canadian boy so that she can remain in the country and the baby will be a Canadian citizen. . She was originally planning on staying 6 months to a year but the new plan is to get pregnant
My acquaintance is always complaining about how her family lives check to check but they have willingly taken in the moocher who has no plans to leave any time soon. This summer they will also be taking in two other children of another moocher that they know (but just for the summer). I can understand wanting to help a friend out but this goes beyond the call of duty in my opinion. Just curious as to how far others would go to help a "friend" out?
Thanks for letting me rant!
I have an acquaintance who feels like she needs to save the world by allowing friends who are financially struggling live with her, her DH and their 3 children. I feel like her "friends" are taking advantage of her generosity. I feel like a scrooge but I don't think I'd be as generous as my acquaintance who is always complaining that her family lives check to check but yet she is financially supporting so-called moochers?
Case in point:
1. Acquaintance is an American citizen living in Canada (DH is Canadian). She is allowing an American friend (20 yrs old) with an 8 month old baby live with her family until she gets on her feet financially. I questioned her how the moocher is going to get back on her feet because she is not legally allowed to work in Canada (she lied at the border and told them she is only visiting for a month or two). I guess the answer is to get a job that pays cash only?
2. Moocher does not pay rent, doesn't contribute anything to the household in lieu of rent (i.e. cooking, laundry, cleaning, etc) to earn her keep. Said moocher is perfectly happy not looking for a job and just sponging off people.
3. Moocher expects acquaintance to buy diapers and formula for her 8 month old as well as feed her nicotine addiction since moocher has no money and no job.
4. Moocher's long term plan is to get pregnant by a nice Canadian boy so that she can remain in the country and the baby will be a Canadian citizen. . She was originally planning on staying 6 months to a year but the new plan is to get pregnant
My acquaintance is always complaining about how her family lives check to check but they have willingly taken in the moocher who has no plans to leave any time soon. This summer they will also be taking in two other children of another moocher that they know (but just for the summer). I can understand wanting to help a friend out but this goes beyond the call of duty in my opinion. Just curious as to how far others would go to help a "friend" out?
Thanks for letting me rant!