cbo111
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I'm sure many of you have experienced a scenario where an elderly parent has some type of medical emergency that triggers the inevitable conversation of living alone versus moving in with family or a facility. My DM is approaching 90 and has lived alone for 10+ years since dad passed. And she has done well for most of those years. But recently she took a bone-fracturing spill and needed some inpatient rehab, then home therapy for several weeks. She now gets around with a walker but is quite wobbly. It became clear to us (her 4 children) that she should not live by herself going forward. We have all asked her to move in with one of us. But she always politely declines and says "I plan to die in my own home." She thinks that is a plan. So the kids have a discussion and make a plan to each spend a month living with her on a rotating basis. One month on, three months off. I live on the opposite side of the country, but can make the trip every few months. Kind of a pain, but workable. But looking downstream, if one of my siblings gets ill and cannot do their month, things get a bit more painful. And mom's side of the family has a fair percentage living in their mid 90's. So this arrangement could go on for many years.
I don't want to cause any unnecessary stress but want to get her to make a plan with a timeline to either move in with one of us, or look into assisted living. Any tips or suggestions?
I don't want to cause any unnecessary stress but want to get her to make a plan with a timeline to either move in with one of us, or look into assisted living. Any tips or suggestions?