Out daughter is a successful 30yr old and running an independent IT consulting business after immigrating to Canada 2 years ago. She is gay and came out of the closet about 6 years ago - it wasn't a total surprise to me - there were several episodes which did'nt really make any sense at school and afterwards at university, and I remember saying to DW on several occasion that I wonder whether she is gay.
My wife took it very badly, and still has'nt entirely accepted the fact that she is gay, but things sort of meandered along without any confrontations and nothing was said that could offend. In the interim my daughter met a lovely person, and I am happy that she had found somebody to share her life with.
However, this year my daughter phoned and announced that they would like to get married next year and things suddenly went from bad to terrible - my daughter was talking about children (probably artificial insemination from a donor) and I do not know what was said but things have reached an icy silence between my daughter and my wife - my wife is a committed roman catholic and her faith is important to her and I would not like to deprive her of it.
I had hoped that over time that DW would become more comfortable with the idea but that has not happened. I have no problem in supporting my daughter and although I would not have chosen a LGBT lifestyle for her given the obstacles involved, I'm fully supportive.
My question is simple - and I do not want to get into the pro's and con's of the LBGT lifestyle - how do I mend the rift between my daughter and my wife - I could strongarm it, but that would not be my first choice and I would like her to contine to hold on her faith but be more broadminded and less judgemental. O by the way, I'm also RC , but would be considered a lapsed church member.
My wife took it very badly, and still has'nt entirely accepted the fact that she is gay, but things sort of meandered along without any confrontations and nothing was said that could offend. In the interim my daughter met a lovely person, and I am happy that she had found somebody to share her life with.
However, this year my daughter phoned and announced that they would like to get married next year and things suddenly went from bad to terrible - my daughter was talking about children (probably artificial insemination from a donor) and I do not know what was said but things have reached an icy silence between my daughter and my wife - my wife is a committed roman catholic and her faith is important to her and I would not like to deprive her of it.
I had hoped that over time that DW would become more comfortable with the idea but that has not happened. I have no problem in supporting my daughter and although I would not have chosen a LGBT lifestyle for her given the obstacles involved, I'm fully supportive.
My question is simple - and I do not want to get into the pro's and con's of the LBGT lifestyle - how do I mend the rift between my daughter and my wife - I could strongarm it, but that would not be my first choice and I would like her to contine to hold on her faith but be more broadminded and less judgemental. O by the way, I'm also RC , but would be considered a lapsed church member.