Originally Posted by Sarah in SC
Both wrong, I think. I'd like to think I'd turn him in for the parked car, but I'm just not sure. Thinking that if it was my parked car, I'd wish someone would be turned in, but I'm thinking that isn't likely. Morals in the modern world...
Our kid would rather escape by chewing her own arm off than have to listen to yet another Dad ethics talk. We tell her that we've heard it all before in the Navy and that she's not good enough to compete at our level. (She still believes it.) If I became aware of her criminal activity then she'd probably turn herself in to avoid further
In this case we'd review the situation and what was going through her mind (probably little or nothing) and then return to the scene of the crime to leave a note. (And on this island, if the parked car had moved she'd probably still see it around within a week or two.) We try to talk through these
teenage situations so that she "knows" the right answer instead of having to try to think through them in a crisis with a non-existent critical-reasoning frontal cortex. Great material for those trapped-in-the-car have-to-have-a-conversation-but-don't-have-to-make-eye-contact situations.
If it was spouse or me... well, one of us would nag the other into figuring out the solution.
I've noticed that our kid has become an expert at answering the questions she'd rather hear instead of the one that's been asked. We call it "evasive quibbling"... not crossing the line into lying but definitely avoiding the whole truth.