Question about internet dating site use

[Hermit]

Do you mean too old to look for a sugar mama? Course not!!


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[Music Lover]

I'm don't know your age OP, but I would be very suspicious of a man who was claiming to be seeking a relationship with a female over 45.

I would assume he is looking for a sugar mama.

Seriously?

I will be retired at 53 in spring...a 45 year old female is right in my ballpark. My worry is if she's looking for a sugar daddy.

 

[Hermit]

Internet Romance:

Sugar Mama meets Sugar Daddy on internet. Live happily ever after.

What's not to like?

 

[Meadbh]

Internet Romance:

Sugar Mama meets Sugar Daddy on internet. Live happily ever after.

What's not to like?

Diabetes!

 

[Hermit]

Diabetes!

 

[Souschef]

Internet for over 60's

I met my wife at an Internet Grief Recovery site. We both lost our spouses, and it was a place to share your feelings and experiences with loss.
One day, she asked where I lived, and it turned out we lived 40 miles apart.
I was very taken with her caring attitude toward others in the chat room, so I suggested we meet for lunch half way. One lunch led to another......
Our relationship moved very slowly from being friends, to being more than that, as we were still mourning our losses.
We were both in our 60's and never had any idea we would find anyone, especially her, since the odds were against a woman. There were many more widows out there than widowers.
We were married on the Island of Santorini, just the two of us, in 2007.

 

[Sunset]

Personally I found in the past the best thing was to meet folks in various situations, my internet dating never turned into even a short term relationship, just a bunch of lunches and coffees.

The nice thing about meeting folks in some general situation, is that they are there to learn/do something and are not putting on a "dating" face. There are less surprises.

I know someone who did use it and ended up married, and I know a fellow that was scammed out of a little $$$ and pride, by a "woman" in the U.S. who never could for some reason or other meet him, it was long distance.

 

[Moemg]

I met my wife at an Internet Grief Recovery site. We both lost our spouses, and it was a place to share your feelings and experiences with loss.
One day, she asked where I lived, and it turned out we lived 40 miles apart.
I was very taken with her caring attitude toward others in the chat room, so I suggested we meet for lunch half way. One lunch led to another......
Our relationship moved very slowly from being friends, to being more than that, as we were still mourning our losses.
We were both in our 60's and never had any idea we would find anyone, especially her, since the odds were against a woman. There were many more widows out there than widowers.
We were married on the Island of Santorini, just the two of us, in 2007.

Congratulations to both of you !

 

[Rickt]

OP...Interesting thread....many insightful suggestions!
In my opinion, it is better not to use internet or e mails for dating.
Meeting in-person is better.
There are sites viz: eharmony etc....but don't know much about them. OP my suggestion is that you be careful.

 

[sailor]

Why not spend a few months going to church, or if you have ever danced, taking a ballroom, swing, tango, whatever class? The idea of getting on an airplane to meet middle aged date possibilities seems bizarre to me. These people are not rare, just about anywhere.

That's an excellent suggestion (at least for the guys! There seem to be always more ladies than guys wanting to dance).

Haha, do you still dance? How is it working with your new hip?

 

[AnIntentionalRoad]

If you are being followed, take 3 straight left turns. No one would ever make 3 straight left turns- one right turn would work just fine...

Not where I live. We have lots of one way streets that make this a routine maneuver.

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[Chelhxi]

I'm guessing that where the distance in daunting that the men might just want to get acquainted and see where things lead... if it is someone who I really connect with then driving another 4 hours or getting on a plane might be a possibility compared to someone who is only mildly interesting.

This is probably part of it. Plus people are often just lonely and bored and like to have someone to talk to in a no pressure way. (Not that it couldn't be a scam.)

I recently met my boyfriend online. He lived over 2,000 km away. But we hit it off extremely well, and immediately, and had all sorts of pre-marriage type conversations before agreeing to meet (within a week of our first phone call) in his city. I flew up. We spent 3 days together. After a couple weeks we decided I'd move there permanently, and did so about 7 weeks after our very first online meeting. We're very happy.

But would I have flown to meet him, let alone moved, had we not seemed extremely compatible? - certainly not. But no harm in a bit of online chatting to see where things lead.

 

[Meadbh]

This is probably part of it. Plus people are often just lonely and bored and like to have someone to talk to in a no pressure way. (Not that it couldn't be a scam.)

I recently met my boyfriend online. He lived over 2,000 km away. But we hit it off extremely well, and immediately, and had all sorts of pre-marriage type conversations before agreeing to meet (within a week of our first phone call) in his city. I flew up. We spent 3 days together. After a couple weeks we decided I'd move there permanently, and did so about 7 weeks after our very first online meeting. We're very happy.

But would I have flown to meet him, let alone moved, had we not seemed extremely compatible? - certainly not. But no harm in a bit of online chatting to see where things lead.

Wow....you have moved to Toronto?

 

[Chelhxi]

Wow....you have moved to Toronto?

From Winnipeg to Yellowknife. It's -35C plus wind right now (feels like -47C) but I don't have to work outside so it's fine. No regrets.

 

[Meadbh]

From Winnipeg to Yellowknife. It's -35C plus wind right now (feels like -47C) but I don't have to work outside so it's fine. No regrets.

Wow. That's a challenging climate, even for a Winnipegger. I hope it works out for you.

 

[Hermit]

Out playing broom ball on the frozen lake with the kids yesterday. Lots of fun plus a few spectacular falls on the ice. Something tells me those falls don't hurt as much for the kids in their teens and twentys as it does for us somewhat older folks!

Off to go skiing for a few days at Aspen this morning. BTW, it was down to about -12 F this morning. Up to -3 now.

 

[daystar]

I'm don't know your age OP, but I would be very suspicious of a man who was claiming to be seeking a relationship with a female over 45.

I would assume he is looking for a sugar mama.

That might be the easiest path to early retirement!