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Old 03-17-2016, 04:59 PM   #1
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Sleep With Spouse or Separate?

When I had a herniated disk problem in my back I could only sleep an hour at a time. It bothered my wife's sleeping and I eventually went into the spare bedroom to give her peace. We have stayed that way for 10 years or so and seem to sleep better. Do you sleep together or separate?
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Old 03-17-2016, 05:07 PM   #2
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What!?

Isn't it bad enough hackers are stealing our identity, Google and the NSA are watching everything we do, now you're asking who I sleep with?

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Old 03-17-2016, 05:21 PM   #3
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We have decided to not separate... Ya get used to her after 58 years, and it's a little late to start over.
Besides... a cute little polar bear is cuddly on a cold winter night.
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Old 03-17-2016, 05:24 PM   #4
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I have cervical and lumbar disc problems, but she married me for better or worse!
Seriously, there are beds where if you move won't shake her side.


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Old 03-17-2016, 05:29 PM   #5
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...only if one of us is sick. Then, the other sleeps in the guest room. So, when DW is sick I go to the guest room. And if I get sick, then I go to the guest room. That's fair, right??
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Old 03-17-2016, 05:38 PM   #6
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My wife and I keep different hours. She gets up all hours of the night taking medicine for her back pain. I stay up very late and my CPAP bothers her.

We also watch different television shows, with me staying abreast of the news.

She has her bedroom suite, and I have my own bedroom at the other end of the house. We just live better sleeping apart. It's a mutual arrangement.
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We have separate bedrooms but he usually ends up in bed with me later in the night. Probably 5 out of 7 nights. My room has the bigger bed.
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Old 03-17-2016, 05:58 PM   #8
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...only if one of us is sick. Then, the other sleeps in the guest room. So, when DW is sick I go to the guest room. And if I get sick, then I go to the guest room. That's fair, right??
Exact same setup here. No point in asking whether it's fair or not. Some things just are the way they are -- like responsibility for the position of the toilet seat.
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Considering there is only one bed in the house, the other would have to go sleep in the motorhome!
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Old 03-17-2016, 06:10 PM   #10
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What!?

Isn't it bad enough hackers are stealing our identity, Google and the NSA are watching everything we do, now you're asking who I sleep with?

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That said, we do live next door to one another. On the other hand, our houses are about 15 feet apart. And then, do we even count as spouses? We aren't married even though we have been a committed couple for 16+ years.

Guess you all will have to wonder about this (if you ever get bored enough to do so), because that's all you are going to get from me.
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I have a full size bed all to myself! (and, yes, it is in the motorhome.) Oh! Wait. You were probably not talking to us single people.
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Old 03-17-2016, 06:26 PM   #12
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We sleep together. I was having problems sleeping with his snoring, but we now sleep with a noisy fan on at night. The white noise works for us. After 43 years, it would be hard sleeping apart!
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Old 03-17-2016, 06:28 PM   #13
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We are in our late 40's and sleep in the same bed, but I sleep with earplugs in due to DH's snoring. Many of my friends and prior coworkers who were in their 50's and older said that they had separate bedrooms and they all seemed to think they were the only ones. I assured them that many people did this and I also wondered why everyone seemed to share this information with me.

Now in addition to the 2 humans there are usually at least 3, but sometimes up to 6 cats on the bed.
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Together. Unless one of us is sick or out of town.
And if DH snores he gets "gently" rolled over onto his side (perhaps with my elbows....lol)
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Me, DW and a small dog in the same bed. We spent some frustrating months sleeping apart due to various health issues. Then there was the snoring by both of us. After dropping a combined 100+ pounds we no longer snore!
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Separate rooms for the last twenty years. A good night sleep is priceless. We both snore. Many friends of ours also sleep in separate rooms/beds. A poll might be a better way to broach this subject.
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...only if one of us is sick. Then, the other sleeps in the guest room. So, when DW is sick I go to the guest room. And if I get sick, then I go to the guest room. That's fair, right??
+1 same system here
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Somehow, together for thirty+ years. And unless traveling, always on "traditional" waterbeds. Amazing what your subconscious can tune out.
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...-- like responsibility for the position of the toilet seat.
You put it up and she then puts it down? Only seems fair to me... why should you do all the work.... share the work load.
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Together unless one of us is sick. However, uncle and aunt have slept separately for many years. Works for them.
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