Martha said:
So do you southerners have strong accents? Less so than your parents or about the same?
That depends on a lot of things. I find my manner of speech and accent tends to change depending on the audience and the forum. Speaking before a group or on TV or radio I adopt not quite an accent-less speech, but as close as I can get. If I'm around nothing but Southerners I don't care about the accent because I know that I'll be understood.
Martha said:
Do southerners really often call each other by the first and middle name? Like Sue Ellen, or Billy Bob. Are there rules for this depending on what your middle name is?
I'm not sure I have the definitive answer as to how all of that came about, but I have what I think is a reasonable explanation. Southerners have long had a strong sense of place and heritage, so we often name our children after family members or famous people who we respect and admire (had an uncle named after John Calhoun and a grand niece named Meg Ryan). Often we will use the first names of two different family members to come up with a first and last name. This may be a Scots-Irish thing, because I look at the names of my Dutch and German ancestors and don't see anywhere near as many repeating names as I do on the Scots-Irish side.
Anyway, we wind up with people whose names are similar to other family members, and to differentiate between Aunt Martha and our cousin named after her, we will often refer to the cousin as Martha Anne. I can't say how we wound up with so many people with the middle name of Robert. I wonder if it started as an homage to Robert E. Lee? You always know when your parents are serious because they use both of your names (James Robert Smith, you better get in this house right now and eat Supper).
I have also noted that when we are feeling particularly close to someone and we want to convey a compliment or a piece of well intended advice, we will use both names (William Lee, I 'm not sure why that girl loves you, but if you don't marry her you are a complete fool). That may be reminiscent from how our parents would use both of our names in such situations.
As to how we came up with the idea of using double dimunitives (James Robert becoming Jim Bob) I don't have a clue.
Double named girls can have an added twist to honor a beloved male relative: Donna Jo (for Joe), Mary Jean (for Gene), Ruth Earline (for Earl), etc and so on.
We also tend to use derivatives (nicknames) as dimunitives and/or to differentiate one James from another. So we wind up with Uncle James, Little James, Jimmy, etc. Then there nicknames that are earned from physical characteristics - Bear or Moose (for a huge guy) Red, Slim, Curly, Shorty, Tiny, etc. And we also have a slew of nicknames that come about because a younger family member cannot pronounce someone's proper name. Brother becomes Bubba, Grandma becomes MawMaw, or MeeMaw, or Big Momma and we have just as many PawPaws and Big Daddy's to match them.
And finally, we just like nicknaming people. Over the years I have met plenty of folks named Scooter, Junior, Corky, Rabbit, Mack, Mo, Buck, etc.
Strangely enough, nicknames can be used in very formal and respectful tones. My girlfriend in High School lived in the city during the week with her mom (a teacher) and on weekends they went to the country where her dad's family had owned a nursery farm for ages. Her grandfather was nicknamed by his family, but all the local workers knew him as "Mr. Buddy". Her dad, Mr. Buddy's son, was nicknamed "Little Buddy", and that was how he was known by both family and employees. But after he grew up and came home to work the farm, the employees called him "Mr. Little Buddy". I remember going into the nearby small town one day to pick up something and overhearing someone ask the storekeeper "who is that boy?" The reply was, "That's Cordelia's young man. He's visiting out at Mr. Little Buddy and Miss Jean's place."
I guess there are no formal rules. If you're from the South it's something you learned at the same time as walking and talking. If you're from someplace else and visiting, then rule number one is "be respectful." You have to know that while you may see a funny nickname and hear an accent you associate with poor education and culture, I can take you today to see a world renowned trauma surgeon who goes by the nickname "Red" and says things like:
"We're fixin' to operate on some old fella down in the O.R., you'all want to watch a pancreaticoduodenectomy?" http://utsurg.uth.tmc.edu/trauma/biographies/duke.html
If someone prefers their nickname you will probably know right away (Just come by and ask to see Tiny back in the shop and I'll get you all fixed up), and if not, then don't try and make one up for them. If you see the man's name on his workshirt is written James Robert, he is most definitely not Jim Bob, or even Jimmy, and probably not even Jim. Calling him outside of his preferred name will get you a dirty look, and doing it in a Yankee accent may earn you some nap time on the concrete. When in doubt, call a male "sir" and a woman "ma'am" - it will earn you points for being polite and they'll usually say "just call me Junior" or "Sweetie, everyone calls me Aunt Pitty Pat".
Some other time we'll talk about when it's polite and acceptable to refer to a complete stranger as Sugar, Sweetie, Darling or Baby.