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I talked to my cousin who is only a year younger than I. He just came back from his daughter's wedding in London. She recently got an MBA from Oxford, as did her new husband. (I didn't think of Oxford as an MBA type place.) By his first wife he has another daughter who is nearing fifty. She works hard and is a credit to him in every way, in spite of or because of being raised solely by her Dad after her teenage Mom wanted to return to her highschool cheerleading squad. Cuz said that’s cool, here’s a few bucks, and don’t let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya!
Years later he got a new younger wife and a whole new family who have a really different outlook on life. So after putting his “2nd family” daughter through many years of expensive schools, he is now supporting this unemployed daughter and her unemployed new husband, as well as cousin's unemployed son who despite getting a JD has not found a job. God only knows how many people he is supporting.
Do they plan on moving back to Middle America where he could at least support them more cheaply, or maybe put them to work on a used car lot? Nope, swinging London is more to their taste. My cousin worked in the car business from age 18 until he had a severe heart attack and spent a long time in the ICU. His father accumulated a similarly nice stash by selling cars and living cheaply. He only quit when he got hit and killed by lightning. (Incidentally his 2nd hit, but 1st kill.)
I also think it takes quite a bit of gall to plan an elaborate wedding on your father's dime, and not even have it on his home turf. There are relatives who would like to come but not make a trip all the way to London. Cuz could enjoy putting on a big spread for his old friends, his church, his team. But no, his role is mainly to pay, and get there if he can. This wedding fantasy has really gotten out of hand, especially with the trend to expensvie hard to reach destination weddings. This weekend one of my sons is going to a wedding up in BC that can only be reached by a difficult 10 hour drive, or a float plane. They planned to fly, but have been grounded for weather. Are these people from way up there? Hell no, they just think it is romantic.
One ought to be able to raise well educated children in a family with plenty of money without destroying their sense of reality, but I guess it doesn't always work.
My own kids spend money like there is no tomorrow, but they also earn a lot. I keep my mouth shut, as the power balance has definitly shifted to their generation. But I am sure they know that I would like to see a little less extravagance.
The reason for having this rant in this venue is that all my friends are into non-judgmentalism, and they would judge me harshly for having these judgmental thoughts.
Ha
Years later he got a new younger wife and a whole new family who have a really different outlook on life. So after putting his “2nd family” daughter through many years of expensive schools, he is now supporting this unemployed daughter and her unemployed new husband, as well as cousin's unemployed son who despite getting a JD has not found a job. God only knows how many people he is supporting.
Do they plan on moving back to Middle America where he could at least support them more cheaply, or maybe put them to work on a used car lot? Nope, swinging London is more to their taste. My cousin worked in the car business from age 18 until he had a severe heart attack and spent a long time in the ICU. His father accumulated a similarly nice stash by selling cars and living cheaply. He only quit when he got hit and killed by lightning. (Incidentally his 2nd hit, but 1st kill.)
I also think it takes quite a bit of gall to plan an elaborate wedding on your father's dime, and not even have it on his home turf. There are relatives who would like to come but not make a trip all the way to London. Cuz could enjoy putting on a big spread for his old friends, his church, his team. But no, his role is mainly to pay, and get there if he can. This wedding fantasy has really gotten out of hand, especially with the trend to expensvie hard to reach destination weddings. This weekend one of my sons is going to a wedding up in BC that can only be reached by a difficult 10 hour drive, or a float plane. They planned to fly, but have been grounded for weather. Are these people from way up there? Hell no, they just think it is romantic.
One ought to be able to raise well educated children in a family with plenty of money without destroying their sense of reality, but I guess it doesn't always work.
My own kids spend money like there is no tomorrow, but they also earn a lot. I keep my mouth shut, as the power balance has definitly shifted to their generation. But I am sure they know that I would like to see a little less extravagance.
The reason for having this rant in this venue is that all my friends are into non-judgmentalism, and they would judge me harshly for having these judgmental thoughts.
Ha