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Old 02-08-2015, 04:25 PM   #41
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I've read where many people here say to not spend money on things, but rather, experiences, usually meaning vacations. Seems like a wedding for your son or daughter is not that much different. I'm not talking about an extravaganza, but something nice and tasteful, and memorable, at least for them.

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Old 02-08-2015, 09:49 PM   #42
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If she has no wedding plans by 30 (she just turned 25), I'll gift the money to her over a couple of years and encourage her to invest it. Heck, for all I know I may be starting a small dribble of wealth transfer in 5 years anyway
I didn't get married until I was 37 and long out of my parent's household. By then they were retired and I was making a good income.

For some strange reason, I always had in my head that the most romantic place to get married was in Las Vegas so when DH and I decided to get married I suggested that. My parents were OK with it and gave us $5000 as a wedding gift (This was 23 years ago). We were grateful and my parents enjoyed watching the wedding video.

I knew that DH had married his prior wife in Las Vegas (quite a coincidence), but I wasn't going to let that keep me from being married where I wanted to get married.

When we got there, we got wedding chapel brochures from the hotel and I picked out the one that seemed the most tasteful. When the limo (part of the wedding package) delivered us there, DH called me aside and said he hadn't been sure until we got there -- but he recognized as the place where he married his prior wife.

I thought about it and realized it didn't really bother me. They had 4 chapels inside and I just asked that he get married in a different one from the one he had been in before...

The wedding was inexpensive, the trip was nice, the gambling was fun and we didn't come close to spending the $5000.

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Daughter is planning a destination wedding to a warm resort next January. We are waiting for the budget amounts. Seems to me this will be a good thing. People who are invited pay their own way but are asked not to do any gifts. I suspect that it will be a small wedding. Just fine with us. We would rather give them money than pay for a big party.

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