SilentWalker
Recycles dryer sheets
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For a while now I have been debating a conundrum of how much is enough for secure retirement with my small kids. Felt like I could share a bit about my specific situation:
I am a mid 50's megacorp mgr with a younger DW and two small kids (5 and <1). Been minimally FI for some time now, meaning that I could jump into second career as a SAHD while DW would love to go back to work full time. Her job would provide the family insurances and her 401k savings but nothing more. For the first 7 years my savings would fund our fairly modest lifestyle in a LCOL area and starting age 62 my defined benefit pensions with SS would cover our basic budget. We have about 150k for each kid's education and have about 2 M to cover any non-essentials, irregularities and emergencies. But there is my main conundrum - with small kids and young wife, so much can happen yet making it very difficult to imagine what is the sufficient amount. Just to list a few of the things that keep me worried:
- With kids so small it's still possible for all kinds of health or developmental issues to emerge. Seems that extreme situation could easily generate expenses in six or seven figures over just a period of few years. This by far is the one biggest concern in my mind.
- My wife's future earnings are still a question mark. If she is motivated to continue her education for two more years, she could double her pay and could easily save enough to fully fund her own much later retirement. But she is worried about not being able to handle the added responsibilities and pressure of the higher level position, so at the current income level she will need significant "leftovers", maybe 1M, from our current savings for the time when I'm probably not around any more.
-Then there are the typical possible LTC expenses, a few cars, roofs and who knows some fun travel for the family.
I have been feeling burned out and exhausted from work for a while now, so if I can make myself feel comfortable with our current buffer I would jump to the SAHD stage at the end of the year. I really want to be there for my kids instead of just the current tired weekend dad, as the 12 hour days suck the life from me during the week. By quitting this early instead of working 3 more years to my megacorp formal earliest retirement age would have various financial impacts. I am estimating that the combined impact of starting spending 3 years later and significantly higher pension would equal 1M more in my stash in the retirement day. But feeling often that I won't get through 3 more years healthy and sane. Just about every other week I conclude that I have enough and then the following week get scared again. The decision will be irreversible as I am pretty sure that just few months out of the game at this age it would be impossible to get hired at any comparable level and even lesser opportunities would require moving to a higher COL area.
So, I don't really have any specific questions beyond just the main issue. Probably some folks here have been through similar situations in their lives. How did you process it to make yourself feel comfortable and did it all work out?
I am a mid 50's megacorp mgr with a younger DW and two small kids (5 and <1). Been minimally FI for some time now, meaning that I could jump into second career as a SAHD while DW would love to go back to work full time. Her job would provide the family insurances and her 401k savings but nothing more. For the first 7 years my savings would fund our fairly modest lifestyle in a LCOL area and starting age 62 my defined benefit pensions with SS would cover our basic budget. We have about 150k for each kid's education and have about 2 M to cover any non-essentials, irregularities and emergencies. But there is my main conundrum - with small kids and young wife, so much can happen yet making it very difficult to imagine what is the sufficient amount. Just to list a few of the things that keep me worried:
- With kids so small it's still possible for all kinds of health or developmental issues to emerge. Seems that extreme situation could easily generate expenses in six or seven figures over just a period of few years. This by far is the one biggest concern in my mind.
- My wife's future earnings are still a question mark. If she is motivated to continue her education for two more years, she could double her pay and could easily save enough to fully fund her own much later retirement. But she is worried about not being able to handle the added responsibilities and pressure of the higher level position, so at the current income level she will need significant "leftovers", maybe 1M, from our current savings for the time when I'm probably not around any more.
-Then there are the typical possible LTC expenses, a few cars, roofs and who knows some fun travel for the family.
I have been feeling burned out and exhausted from work for a while now, so if I can make myself feel comfortable with our current buffer I would jump to the SAHD stage at the end of the year. I really want to be there for my kids instead of just the current tired weekend dad, as the 12 hour days suck the life from me during the week. By quitting this early instead of working 3 more years to my megacorp formal earliest retirement age would have various financial impacts. I am estimating that the combined impact of starting spending 3 years later and significantly higher pension would equal 1M more in my stash in the retirement day. But feeling often that I won't get through 3 more years healthy and sane. Just about every other week I conclude that I have enough and then the following week get scared again. The decision will be irreversible as I am pretty sure that just few months out of the game at this age it would be impossible to get hired at any comparable level and even lesser opportunities would require moving to a higher COL area.
So, I don't really have any specific questions beyond just the main issue. Probably some folks here have been through similar situations in their lives. How did you process it to make yourself feel comfortable and did it all work out?