BigNick
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
DS has a decent job and is living with his GF who makes twice as much, and they are content to rent for now. DD also has a good job, but she wanted to buy a house in an expensive area, so we gave her $200k as a big down payment for that and later about $30k to become a partner in her BF's new business.
We made sure that both kids know that these are advances on the inheritance, so if the plane taking us on vacation crashes tomorrow, DD owes DS half of what she has had as an advance on the inheritance (i.e., $115k). They will both be getting a big chunk of cash, though, so that should be no problem.
However, to protect DS a bit further, especially in case either kid's family/marital situation evolves, we took one of DW's life policies and changed it so that DS became the beneficiary instead of me. This pays out about $200k, so when the poop hits the A/C, DD will only have had $30k more and will only own DS $15k. (To put this in perspective, if they inherit less than $500k each from us, a number of things will have had to have gone very badly wrong.)
We have decided to keep all of this out of our wills, as we trust the kids and they trust each other. So they will inherit 50–50 and sort it out. We are lucky that they are both solvent, even if neither is as financially literate as I might like.
However, I'm not sure what to do about inflation. DW's life policy is 50% in stocks, so in a few years time its value may have caught up with what we gave DD, although that's not guaranteed. I'm slightly concerned that when the time comes, the adjustment may leave one kid unfairly (dis)advantaged.
There is also the matter of exchange rates, as DD and DS live and work in places which use different currencies. DD got her money in what I'll call Blargs and DS will get his in Blorps, and the Blarg/Blorp rate will of course fluctuate over time.
But perhaps I'm overthinking this, as none of the parties involves seems to want to discuss it and so maybe doing it all on nominal values in Blargs is simplest...
We made sure that both kids know that these are advances on the inheritance, so if the plane taking us on vacation crashes tomorrow, DD owes DS half of what she has had as an advance on the inheritance (i.e., $115k). They will both be getting a big chunk of cash, though, so that should be no problem.
However, to protect DS a bit further, especially in case either kid's family/marital situation evolves, we took one of DW's life policies and changed it so that DS became the beneficiary instead of me. This pays out about $200k, so when the poop hits the A/C, DD will only have had $30k more and will only own DS $15k. (To put this in perspective, if they inherit less than $500k each from us, a number of things will have had to have gone very badly wrong.)
We have decided to keep all of this out of our wills, as we trust the kids and they trust each other. So they will inherit 50–50 and sort it out. We are lucky that they are both solvent, even if neither is as financially literate as I might like.
However, I'm not sure what to do about inflation. DW's life policy is 50% in stocks, so in a few years time its value may have caught up with what we gave DD, although that's not guaranteed. I'm slightly concerned that when the time comes, the adjustment may leave one kid unfairly (dis)advantaged.
There is also the matter of exchange rates, as DD and DS live and work in places which use different currencies. DD got her money in what I'll call Blargs and DS will get his in Blorps, and the Blarg/Blorp rate will of course fluctuate over time.
But perhaps I'm overthinking this, as none of the parties involves seems to want to discuss it and so maybe doing it all on nominal values in Blargs is simplest...