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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
It still got shaky at times, but pulled through well.
Good going Mulligan! This sounds very positive.
Don't you feel that we men are just as resistant to "being helped" as women are? Many a woman has treid to help a man detour from his self dstructive path, only to be rejected and abused for her efforts. Usually there are reasons why we do what we do, for good or ill. I had a woman friend maybe 10 tens ago who inherited a nice hunk of change, enough for most of us to retire quite safely. She had not worked during the 13 years between her marriage and divorce, and she wan't planning to start if it could be avoided. Partly because I liked her, and partly because I didn't want to be close by if/when everything fell apart, I tried to give her a little background standard stuff about conservative investing and most importantly about health insurance. She more or less told me to mind my own business. I was never sure whether she suspected I wanted her dough, or if it was just her overall bad judgment and stubborness. She was best in class on both these traits.Still, I can't quite understand all the pitfalls and land mines one has to avoid in talking about money especially with the fairer sex! The message sent is not always the message received. She is very independent and self reliant especially financially. My sincere advise with all the subtle speak still got received as I was doing this to avoid her being a financial burden on me which was not the case.
Anyway I got out of Dodge, but we stayed in touch. She is now, at age 57, completely broke and working at some sort of telephone service business. Her only hope of retiring and staying in her lower middle class house is for her ex to retire, and apply for SS. Half of his would still perhaps not keep her above water. And I really don't think even this would work. People do stupid things all the time. For me it is sometimes a struggle to avoid my own favorite class of stupid decisions.
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