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I continue to fail to see any major problem here.
Of course the parents are "shocked and dismayed" to hear that the kids are going to live a different lifestyle. Happens most of the time when the kids take a significantly different path than the aging, set-in-their-ways parents did. And it doesn't have to be a situation where the kids are choosing to follow a lower income/spending lifestyle. For us, we were dismayed when both DS and DIL chose to take stressful jobs as managers at tech MegaCorps while raising three kids (one with special needs). They're so busy! We look at their schedule and our eyes roll up in wonder how they do it! But, we keep our mouths mostly zipped, help out occasionally and remind ourselves their lives are theirs to live.
OP's in-laws aren't necessarily in troublesome financial shape. We only know that they're spending somewhat extravagantly now and if they keep it up, their FA says they might run out of money in 20 years. They're in their 60's. Does anyone really think they'll continue this level of activity into their 80's? I predict a slowing of spending as they age and likely no financial problems in the distant future. In the meantime, I'd cheer them on (maybe hold a bon voyage party) as they embark on their next international trip!
Since possible financial problems for the in-laws are unlikely and so far in the future (by which time all the circumstances can change), is OP subconsciously wishing the in-laws lifestyle and financial plans would be more accommodative of being a back-up for his FIRE plans?
Of course the parents are "shocked and dismayed" to hear that the kids are going to live a different lifestyle. Happens most of the time when the kids take a significantly different path than the aging, set-in-their-ways parents did. And it doesn't have to be a situation where the kids are choosing to follow a lower income/spending lifestyle. For us, we were dismayed when both DS and DIL chose to take stressful jobs as managers at tech MegaCorps while raising three kids (one with special needs). They're so busy! We look at their schedule and our eyes roll up in wonder how they do it! But, we keep our mouths mostly zipped, help out occasionally and remind ourselves their lives are theirs to live.
OP's in-laws aren't necessarily in troublesome financial shape. We only know that they're spending somewhat extravagantly now and if they keep it up, their FA says they might run out of money in 20 years. They're in their 60's. Does anyone really think they'll continue this level of activity into their 80's? I predict a slowing of spending as they age and likely no financial problems in the distant future. In the meantime, I'd cheer them on (maybe hold a bon voyage party) as they embark on their next international trip!
Since possible financial problems for the in-laws are unlikely and so far in the future (by which time all the circumstances can change), is OP subconsciously wishing the in-laws lifestyle and financial plans would be more accommodative of being a back-up for his FIRE plans?
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