Interesting thread.
As far as receiving an inheritance, in all likelihood I will receive an amount that, while significant to my parents, amounts to about 1.2% of my own portfolio. I am executor of their estate. One glitch in their wills that leaves me a little worried is that I am to divide the estate equally by the number of siblings remaining alive, and pay that amount immediately to each sibling except one spendthrift sister, to whom I am to distribute $1,200 per year until the money runs out. If a sibling pre-deceases my parents, that sibling's family (grandchildren) receive nothing. Long story on that, but it has to do with spendthrift sister and her semi estranged n'er-do-well husband (estranged, but still comes sniffing whenever there is money to be had). I'm not even sure their distribution (to sis) plan is legal. I also have a brother who I expect will cause trouble, because he always stirs the pot at family reunions, etc. I don't want or need their money so would just as soon have someone else do it, but they don't (understandably) trust any of the others.
I would like to leave an estate up to the tax free limit, for my kids, in equal proportions. Of course, I have no plans to eat dog food to be able to do that, so if I can't leave that much, so be it. On the other hand, if it looks like we can leave more than that, we can and will gift to our kids, and perhaps their kids and spouses, up to the tax free limit each year. These gifts will come with caveats, that the money remain in specified investment accounts until either we pass or they reach an age where they can also ER, should they be desirous to receive future cash gifts. The only exceptions to this would be to fund a downpayment on a modest first home, or medical emergencies. Should they decide to withdraw the money against those caveats, then I will just enjoy more toys, more international travel, etc. in other words, I do want to share my prosperity with my posterity, but I desire for them to use the fruits of my labors wisely. If they are gonna crap it away at the craps table, for example, they should expect no more.
Finally, a word or two about "why" I would like to share my prosperity with my kids. When they were young, 11 and 7 years old, I uprooted them from their lives and friends here in the US to take the assignment in Japan. It was to last a year, but extended over and over until we had been there for nearly 14 years. My kids did get to experience a lot of things due to my assignment that other kids did not get to experience. Still, there were myriad sacrifices for them as well. I guess to an extent, I would like to compensate for some of those sacrifices (although in reality the experiences they gained as a result probably more than compensate for what they may have missed).
R