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Old 12-16-2005, 12:44 PM   #41
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To follow up on my prior post, I wouldn't consider it "financial infidelity" if: (i) you tell your spouse that you have a personal credit card, and (ii) you have the means (that aren't already factored into the family finances) to pay it off every month.

I'm sure it is a well-known fact, but it bears repeating.* Once you're married, one spouse's debts become debts of the marital couple.
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Re: Secret Money. Do you hide money from your spouse?
Old 12-16-2005, 12:54 PM   #42
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is there a thing as post-nup? it's too late for prenup for us... jk

we sank sometime upto 2k in cc bill. eventhough i pay them off but i do have a hard time convincing my wife that's alot of money.

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My wife and I are very open about communicating money matters to each other. *We even share our monthly financial information with the kids on a regular basis. *We feel it is good for them to learn about how to deal with money, making compromises, decision making, the controlling of wants and desires, etc.

We tell them it is a private matter not to be shared with other kids at school... the same way we don't share our personal financial information with friends or co-workers.
My parents never shared their financial information with me, even when they were going through a very rough patch. My guess is that they never wanted to burden me. Today, however, I'm the executor of their estates, and my father is leaning more on me for advice. Nevertheless, I *still* don't know how much they have in terms of assets (nor do I really want to know).
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No, I do not. Question is, does she? She's done the checkbook for 40 years, so she might have a stash somewhere!
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I hid my spouse... :P
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I wish she did!
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DW and I discuss finances in depth and account for nearly everything. Having said that DW does rat-hole cash. It must be hereditary because her mom did the same thing. I'm ok with it because its peanuts to me but security or independance to her.


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I don't but hubby usually has a stash somewhere for something he wants to buy. It used to bother me but not anymore. He was always the shopper/spender in the family but he has managed to rein that in pretty well lately. And it's to the point where he tells me what he is saving the money for.
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My wife and I have had all joint accounts since day one and it has worked well for us. For awhile we kept a savings account in her name with about a months worth of money in it in case something happen to me and they froze accounts but we were later told that wouldn't happen so we did away with that. I have always advised newlyweds to do the joint accounts approach, most don't.

All that said she doesn't really understand all the investments and the idea of a letter or at least a notebook that explains it all would be a good idea. I have told that it is all in Quicken, but she would probably have to have some one show her how to use it. I should add that to my todo list, teach wife how to use Quicken.

One story out of the work place from the past. One fellow kept two locked filing cabinets in our lab. We were just told to leave them alone. We later found out he was hiding things from the wife for when the eventual divorce came. You see he also hide several women around the country. He finally hide one to close to home and got caught. Never did find out what was in the filing cabinets, they were empty one day when we went in the lab. We speculated gold and gems

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You see he also hide several women around the country. He finally hide one to close to home and got caught. Never did find out what was in the filing cabinets, they were empty one day when we went in the lab.
Probably little women.

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honesty is easy and mindless.
hiding and cheating is hard work and mindful.

good money habbit will easily win the trust from your spouse. i don't mean going home tell your spouse you found 20% discount on jewlery every two week...
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honesty is easy and mindless.
hiding and cheating is hard work and mindful.

So true! I told my kids....."Just tell the truth, you don't have to remember what you said nor worry that it will be repeated."

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the truth hurts... sometime.

in some cases, hiding the truth prevent a verbal war or even broken marriage.
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No I don't hide money from DW but apparantly she does.
I found 600 bucks yesterday
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I walked in on the DH the other day and saw him holding a wallet stuffed full of cash. It kind of suprised me . I asked him where that came from and he said he keeps it in the dresser. He said that's the money he uses when we go out, uses to buy nonsense stuff, etc. I just didn't realize he had so much but he does spend it on me so that's what matters

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No, I can be scatterbrained and would forget where I hid it.

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I walked in on the DH the other day and saw him holding a wallet stuffed full of cash. It kind of suprised me* .* I asked him where that came from and he said he keeps it in the dresser.*
read somewhere that this is the first place burglars check for cash, so when I was single, would put rainy day cash in really random places, like in a textbook on the page of a really neat formula. Problem was, later couldn't remember where were the hiding spots. Still come across random bills to this day.
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