Another angle - offer him your unstinting support, in all ways but financial. Listen to him, invite him to dinner, be loving. That's the duty of a child, not being his hedge against taking responsibility.
You can be a caring person without being a chump. Dollars and heart don't have to go together.
SIS
I doubt he ever was, or ever could be (been there - done that)......let him be a man...
njhowie said:And what's the duty of a father? What has dad been doing all these years? Was he being a father? No. Was he providing support? No.
Maybe father should have been a caring person if wanting others to reciprocate?