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Recycles dryer sheets
So my brother passed away this morning to cancer after a brave battle (17 month) ! He’s a lifelong bachelor and my sis is the trustee for his revocable trust. He didn’t share details of his assets or bills with her and only yesterday they had the convo of cremation vs. burial and put a DNR in place as his metastatic cancer spread to his liver which was failing. My brother was not open about his finances. She and my other brother and I now must do detective work to figure out if he still has a mortgage and what expenses and liabilities he has.
It’s surprising to me that he didn’t clue her in to anything really. So, the process begins to 1) write obituary 2) determine celebration of life venue and date/details (he had many, many friends) and 3) figure out his finances (he had solid pension and SS which promptly ends this month (no survivor). He did have a close girlfriend who recently moved in with him (2 or 3 mos ago). They were crazy for each other.
I don’t even know who the specific heirs are to his trust since my sis hasn’t specified but she and I and other brother are making joint decisions now that he is gone.
Is this common? My sis has no info on his financials and will need to go through his papers, tax returns and meet with his attorney to get more info. She will need to wait till death cert is available to access his bank account.
Luckily our other brother is an IT guy who can see what info is on computer.
Just thought I’d post this to remind people to clue in their trustees before the time comes.
Feeling sad and surprised.
It’s surprising to me that he didn’t clue her in to anything really. So, the process begins to 1) write obituary 2) determine celebration of life venue and date/details (he had many, many friends) and 3) figure out his finances (he had solid pension and SS which promptly ends this month (no survivor). He did have a close girlfriend who recently moved in with him (2 or 3 mos ago). They were crazy for each other.
I don’t even know who the specific heirs are to his trust since my sis hasn’t specified but she and I and other brother are making joint decisions now that he is gone.
Is this common? My sis has no info on his financials and will need to go through his papers, tax returns and meet with his attorney to get more info. She will need to wait till death cert is available to access his bank account.
Luckily our other brother is an IT guy who can see what info is on computer.
Just thought I’d post this to remind people to clue in their trustees before the time comes.
Feeling sad and surprised.