SteveR
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Sam said:Thank you SteveR. I like the "helping the needy family members" part the most. In your opinion, is that the most satisfying act one can do with their extra money?
I married into a large family and with all large families there are personal problems with some members that allows for some "charity starts at home" kind of spending. I would much rather help out a family member than write a check to some faceless organization where I have no idea where the money goes. This is a direct relationship and I can see the effect. It also gives me a chance to see if I would ever help them again.
Some have been loans due to some personal issues and other times it was a gift to keep the wolf away from the door.....no expectation of being repaid by other than being thanked for the help.
The gifts have come with a price tag however. The recipient has to endure my speaches on LBYM, FIRE and getting out of debt. I have distributed a few books to some family members and when I see them again I ask to see if they have read it yet. For one member, I researched a ton of information that I provided to them with the expecation that they actually apply for some help from the state. They did so and are very happy to have been shown what was available to them. We have had only one negative issue so far and we hope to resolve that pretty soon. Otherwise, I am very happy to be able to help out my family when there is a true need. No one has asked for a hand out and no one would. These are very proud people that have fallen on some hard times.