I used to care about what the siblings thought but eventually gave up on that. After being laid off twice 8 years apart in a 32 year IT career two of then somehow got the idea that I must be a total loser or screwed up something badly -- old school. The first time despite the efforts of me and several thousand others the company was acquired by the parent and promptly shut down and almost everybody was let go. Second one was a maniac small business owner (<15) with a history of mental problems. I always consistently got raises and promotions, and bonuses when I was on a bonus plan.
Except for the first two years I was never able to keep up with work in 40 hours per week. There was not a lot of time to enjoy nice vacations or accumulate stuff, and combined with some stealth wealth maybe some got the idea that we are dead broke.
One just called one day asked can you afford this. I mentioned maturing IT industry, recession, and after some recovery things will be fine, which they are. We could double our spending now.
I explained to another that for a few years I was engaged in a time consuming moonlighting effort that paid really well. I was asked to do this, not the other way around. Rustette injected that sometimes I came home, ate, then worked on this until 9, 10, or 11. Sibling very clearly thought we were lying. I also said that being in a 24x7 call rotation for a Fortune 500 (sometimes Fortune 100) data center and frequently getting scheduled in on weekends to implement changes was not easy. Businesses don't like changes to their data centers midweek because they need the computers to serve the business. They said they had to work at night, also -- school teachers who were required to sell concessions at the ball games. OK. I don't want to sound like I am picking on the teachers, but I didn't get every summer off, but these two acted like everybody everywhere had summers off. Took a two year hiatus from this pair except for going to their grandkids birthday parties. Showed them a box of correspondence, deliverables, contracts, purchase orders, and check stubs from this project and somehow they became convinced that it was not a lie. The relationship shows signs of recovery.
Oldest one consistently called me about twice a year with a sh!tload of condescension. In 2012 after I had to hear about how I was wasting my life they tried to tell me that Congress voted on the Social Security COLA every year, and I said, no, it is determined by the CPI and has been that way since about 1974, I decided enough is enough. Except for attending one of their life events a few years ago I have no contact. I was nice to them and their other guests, but did not linger after the event.
So mostly no.
Edit to add: These are the only people who treat me like this -- my closest living relatives. Go figure.
). Truthfully, I have a few (or maybe a hundred) jerk tendencies, so it's probably a good thing that societal disapproval influences me to suppress them. 
