Lisa99
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This may turn out to be just a vent but I'd like to see how others have handled a similar situation.
When father in law lost his wife last June he decided he was going to spend about 3 months each winter 'here' with his kids. Plan started out that he was going to get an apt here in Vegas but when he realized he couldn't deal with the traffic the plans changed to living with DH's sister.
On December 15, FIL arrived at our house with the intention of spending a month with us and then moving to his daughter's house for the duration. I wasn't asked if I was ok with the plan, he just showed up.
He has some OCD habits that drive me batsh*t and I'm still working so having a guest in the house seriously disrupts my day (I feel obligated to do things that DH and I normally don't do like cook a meal every night).
I feel that I'm being selfish and self-centered but of the month he decided to stay with us I had a 3-week stay at home vacation planned. I was going to relax, rejuvenate and basically veg, but that hasn't happened.
I'm an introvert so having a person in my house for a month other than DH is causing me major stress. Have you had to deal with a similar situation and if so what did you do?
When father in law lost his wife last June he decided he was going to spend about 3 months each winter 'here' with his kids. Plan started out that he was going to get an apt here in Vegas but when he realized he couldn't deal with the traffic the plans changed to living with DH's sister.
On December 15, FIL arrived at our house with the intention of spending a month with us and then moving to his daughter's house for the duration. I wasn't asked if I was ok with the plan, he just showed up.
He has some OCD habits that drive me batsh*t and I'm still working so having a guest in the house seriously disrupts my day (I feel obligated to do things that DH and I normally don't do like cook a meal every night).
I feel that I'm being selfish and self-centered but of the month he decided to stay with us I had a 3-week stay at home vacation planned. I was going to relax, rejuvenate and basically veg, but that hasn't happened.
I'm an introvert so having a person in my house for a month other than DH is causing me major stress. Have you had to deal with a similar situation and if so what did you do?