I was in your wife's shoes for about 5 years so I can provide some insight into it. In the beginning, my husband expected me to do what I had always done. From my point of view, i didn't see why I had to work a long day and come home to domestic stuff and then do the heavier cleaning on my week-ends when DH was at home all day. The first 6 months were very hard and boy was I grumpy! There is nothig worse than you have some dragons at work I needed to slay that morning and my HD asking where is this or that because actually looking under papers would be too hard or commenting on how relaxing his day was going to be. I just stopped doing anything except some grocery shopping or cooking when I felt like it.
After that, we worked out responsibilities. My husband did take laundry and only ruined a couple of sweater by washing them in hot water. I took responsiblity for the cleaning since I could do it on the way home. I did change the our roles. I handled all the financial items and he did the home items. I still resented him having a life he was enjoying so much while I had a job I hated but I was able to keep the feeling under control now that I didn't have to do the housework also.
Now that I have been retired for 1 month, we once again are diviting up the chores and I am a lot happier.
After that, we worked out responsibilities. My husband did take laundry and only ruined a couple of sweater by washing them in hot water. I took responsiblity for the cleaning since I could do it on the way home. I did change the our roles. I handled all the financial items and he did the home items. I still resented him having a life he was enjoying so much while I had a job I hated but I was able to keep the feeling under control now that I didn't have to do the housework also.
Now that I have been retired for 1 month, we once again are diviting up the chores and I am a lot happier.