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Old 04-10-2014, 10:38 PM   #41
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Never married. In some ways it is probably easier to handle my finances being single but I would love to be part of a two income couple. Also I'm risk adverse and would like someone else to make investment decisions. But I don't mind tracking expenses, paying the bills, comparison shopping, researching financial and retirement matters, etc.
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Old 04-10-2014, 11:17 PM   #42
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Another Hermit?

Up at my 2nd home in the high country, I have a few neighbors who are single women in their 60s (divorcee or widow) who are financially well-off and live alone. The problem is that as hermits, they do not socialize much to even start a relationship. It's most likely that they do not care to.

And why am I reminded of Hermitian matrices and their properties (such as "All Hermitian matrices have real eigenvalues")?
Here's a misanthrope's intro on a dating site:

Misanthrope in search of similar for mutual loathing.
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Introverts who do not actively seek companionship are not necessarily misanthropes. It so happened that last weekend I picked up my copy of "The Joy of Not Working" by Zelinski and reread the last chapter where the author talked about how self-actualized people can be content being alone, yet they can be social and open to friendship in the right occasions. It's just that they do not actively seek companionship as a necessity to being happy.
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Hear, hear NW-Bound. I often try to make this distinction when attempting to explain that my preference for spending so much time alone in no way implies a dislike of people. Not everyone gets it.
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Depends on many variables which depend on two separate and distinct people and how well they mesh. Or don't.

There is no accurate answer to the question within such general parameters.

Being with my wife is more important to me than having money. I even felt that way when we had no money, and it didn't look like we ever would. Money never even figured into the equation 36 years ago in our decision to be together. We treat finances as 'ours', so no it is not difficult.

Overall, it depends on the person you're in a relationship with. Or the person they are...

Btw - Briggs Stratton has me as a 95% introvert. INTJ.
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That was great springnr. Brought a tear to my eye!
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Depends on many variables which depend on two separate and distinct people and how well they mesh. Or don't.

There is no accurate answer to the question within such general parameters.

Being with my wife is more important to me than having money. I even felt that way when we had no money, and it didn't look like we ever would. Money never even figured into the equation 36 years ago in our decision to be together. We treat finances as 'ours', so no it is not difficult.

Overall, it depends on the person you're in a relationship with. Or the person they are...

Btw - Briggs Stratton has me as a 95% introvert. INTJ.

Did you mean Myers-Briggs? Briggs Stratton makes engines for lawn mowers. But maybe your lawn mower knows you better than anyone else.
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Did you mean Myers-Briggs? Briggs Stratton makes engines for lawn mowers. But maybe your lawn mower knows you better than anyone else.

My mower is INGS ("I'm not gonna start").

Kidding, it's a Deere and has been admirable since 1998
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Never married. In some ways it is probably easier to handle my finances being single but I would love to be part of a two income couple. Also I'm risk adverse and would like someone else to make investment
Piece of cake. Just find a woman, ask her if she would also love to be part of a two income couple.

You'd sweep her off her feet, you old romantic.

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I always thought the hierarchy for building wealth is:

1. Married to someone who shares your LBYM lifestyle.
2. Being single
3. Married to someone who does not share your LBYM lifestyle


Numbers 1 and 2 are pretty close, in my opinion, but number 3 can be a disaster.

Also, since no two people always agree on spending, there will always be some tension with Number 1, but that can actually be a good thing if communication is open and respectful.
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I was married the first time at ages 25-30. I ended that marriage (it was not healthy at all). I was better off financially as a single person, working 3/4 time, and going to school with a mortgage than as a married as a 20 something. Mainly because my ex and I had totally different money habits. As soon as we accumulated $1000 of savings (which would take a whole year!), he'd somehow convince me to buy a new mountain bike (for him) or something. I did however loose half of my retirement in that divorce which was the only time I cried I think. Luckily it was at an all time low when he got to it.

Then I lived alone and put myself through school while keeping the house. Eventually, I dated someone for 3 years and we married when I was 36. I started my marriage off completely debt free (sold my house, paid off my loans).

My husband and I have gone from <$300k in retirement (cumulative) to $710k (cumulative) in just 2.5 years of combined finances and interest. The power of teamwork and similar goals is amazing!
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Piece of cake. Just find a woman, ask her if she would also love to be part of a two income couple.

You'd sweep her off her feet, you old romantic.

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The poster is a woman, and one who's well-off too, as I remember (showing off my excellent memory again!).
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Kind of surprised only 4 Widowed responses. Losing my wife was really the first step to deciding to ER. Showed how short life can be.
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.... Losing my wife was really the first step to deciding to ER. Showed how short life can be.
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The poster is a woman, and one who's well-off too, as I remember (showing off my excellent memory again!).
Whoops! Although many older women might be better served by marrying a compatible woman, and passing on by the men.

We men tend to think we're catnip, but I'm not always so sure.

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Tough poll. Married young, divorced, spent a few years figuring life out. Few years later, we remarried.

I thing recycled might fit us better. Been together 35+ years so it works for us. I wouldn't recommend it as a first choice, but I've known 4 other couples that have done the same thing.
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Did you mean Myers-Briggs? Briggs Stratton makes engines for lawn mowers. But maybe your lawn mower knows you better than anyone else.

You caught on to my dirty secret lol. Yes - Myers-Bridds. I mean, Briggs.

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Kind of surprised only 4 Widowed responses. Losing my wife was really the first step to deciding to ER. Showed how short life can be.
I put down married, which I am....but I have been widowed.
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I've been everything in the poll except widowed. My ex passed away last year...does that count?
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