tangomonster
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When we were working, DH and I were complete introverts. Didn't have the energy or inclination to want to socialize. But shortly after FIRE, we found that we wanted to be with people and not just each other. Some of this may be due to having virtually unlimited time and energy. Some of it may have been due to not wanting to socialize with co-workers for various reasons and not knowing anyone else.
We've really been enjoying the socializing---but it doesn't come cheap! There's the cost of gas (except with neighbors in our development). There's often the cost of going to eat (which DH and I would do on our own at least once a week, but most people want to go to restaurants that are more costly than the ethnic dives we enjoy!). Even if you stay in and have a potluck or cook dinner for friends, it can be costlier than just cooking for the two of us (larger quantities and more expensive ingredients, sometimes). And we may have to break down and actually buy some board games since some friends seem to require this as part of getting together.
We never go to the movies and try to go to free, low-cost concerts, so that helps some. And I guess that if socializing is going to be our major leisure activity, it's not that bad if it costs some (the other stuff we like to do is free, like reading and walking).
So---what I'm looking for is reassurance that it's okay to spend a little money to socialize (give me your permission and blessing and don't kick me out of the frugal living club!)...or suggestions on how to minimize the costs of socializing....
We've really been enjoying the socializing---but it doesn't come cheap! There's the cost of gas (except with neighbors in our development). There's often the cost of going to eat (which DH and I would do on our own at least once a week, but most people want to go to restaurants that are more costly than the ethnic dives we enjoy!). Even if you stay in and have a potluck or cook dinner for friends, it can be costlier than just cooking for the two of us (larger quantities and more expensive ingredients, sometimes). And we may have to break down and actually buy some board games since some friends seem to require this as part of getting together.
We never go to the movies and try to go to free, low-cost concerts, so that helps some. And I guess that if socializing is going to be our major leisure activity, it's not that bad if it costs some (the other stuff we like to do is free, like reading and walking).
So---what I'm looking for is reassurance that it's okay to spend a little money to socialize (give me your permission and blessing and don't kick me out of the frugal living club!)...or suggestions on how to minimize the costs of socializing....