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Sue, I am so happy for him, and for you!!! That was about the easiest transition to assisted living that one could have. I am so glad he found a good facility to move to, that he likes.
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Sue, I am so happy for him, and for you!!! That was about the easiest transition to assisted living that one could have. I am so glad he found a good facility to move to, that he likes.
+2.... It was a bit of the same for my mom.... she refused to even talk about moving out of her house for over 5 years... then decided she wanted to move and started looking... I thought all of the places my sisters took her to were not that good... so I looked...
I found a nice condo and we put in a bid in a couple of days... she still tells me how happy she is that I found it for her, 3 years now...
I hope that moving to assisted living or whatever is next will be easy...
That was quick. Hope it works out for him.
When my aunt moved into her assisted living I handled the move. We donated lots of things and slimmed down to fit, all she needed was new computer and TV - things with small footprints. Worked out very well while she was there.
When my aunt moved into her assisted living I handled the move. We donated lots of things and slimmed down to fit, all she needed was new computer and TV - things with small footprints. Worked out very well while she was there.
You guys are on a hot streak.
What does one do with tax returns that old? Just throw everything before 2004 into the shredder?
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Wow - congrats. It's wonderful that your Dad is excited about the place and championing the move. And to find a place he likes so quickly! What a whirlwind! Thanks for sharing.
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Sounds like your dad is ready to move and happy with his choice. This looks like a win - win for all.
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Sue, are you sure he didn't read Sarah's post?
If he did, he just might be planning to take those along so he's ready for the wild parties.
Fantastic.
All moved in
The move went well last Friday. He only took what he still used and needed so there is still a lot of stuff (clothing, decorative items, housewares) left at his condominium that my sister and I have to deal with. The movers were excellent and have a lot of experience with seniors. Neighbors and building staff stopped in to say goodbye and I let them take dishes, dried flower arrangements, wall stuff, etc. just to get stuff to good homes.
My DH and our son rented a U-Haul truck so that we could bring some furniture home with us. We came home with a china cabinet and sideboard/server piece and a bedroom armoire that DH will use. We already had plenty of furniture so we have been rearranging things to get these items in their place. When my parents were in their house (1961-1995) they bought an Ethan Allen dining room set that I always loved. My sister has the dining room table and chairs because she had room and I didn't, but now I've acquired the rest of it. The china cabinet is in the living room now and will serve as storage and a bookcase. The server doesn't have a place yet, but it's my favorite piece of furniture ever, so I will find a good place for it.
Dad is so happy with his decision. He's relieved that he doesn't have to think about groceries and meal prep anymore. He has a kitchenette (no stove) in his new place but didn't want to bring a table and chairs like many of the other residents have because he wants to be out with people and eat in the dining room. Instead he brought his desk and computer.
My sister picked out all kinds of wall art and accent pieces from his apartment and made the new place look very comfortable and homelike.
The potential renter backed out so my sister had a real estate agent look at the condo and my Dad has signed a contract. The starting price is far lower than he paid in 1995, but that's expected. I'm sure he'll end up dropping the price if someone makes an offer.
One glitch we ran into is that his phone service is provided by the assisted living facility and it only allows local calls. I'm out of town and he was unable to call me! I don't know what other residents do for long distance but the simple solution was that I got Google Voice number in his area code and it rings my home number and/or my cell phone number. I wanted it to be easy and seamless for him and it works for what we need.
All the Trader Joes wine was donated to the dining facility for their Thursday Happy Hour, so he should be very popular!
The move went well last Friday. He only took what he still used and needed so there is still a lot of stuff (clothing, decorative items, housewares) left at his condominium that my sister and I have to deal with. The movers were excellent and have a lot of experience with seniors. Neighbors and building staff stopped in to say goodbye and I let them take dishes, dried flower arrangements, wall stuff, etc. just to get stuff to good homes.
My DH and our son rented a U-Haul truck so that we could bring some furniture home with us. We came home with a china cabinet and sideboard/server piece and a bedroom armoire that DH will use. We already had plenty of furniture so we have been rearranging things to get these items in their place. When my parents were in their house (1961-1995) they bought an Ethan Allen dining room set that I always loved. My sister has the dining room table and chairs because she had room and I didn't, but now I've acquired the rest of it. The china cabinet is in the living room now and will serve as storage and a bookcase. The server doesn't have a place yet, but it's my favorite piece of furniture ever, so I will find a good place for it.
Dad is so happy with his decision. He's relieved that he doesn't have to think about groceries and meal prep anymore. He has a kitchenette (no stove) in his new place but didn't want to bring a table and chairs like many of the other residents have because he wants to be out with people and eat in the dining room. Instead he brought his desk and computer.
My sister picked out all kinds of wall art and accent pieces from his apartment and made the new place look very comfortable and homelike.
The potential renter backed out so my sister had a real estate agent look at the condo and my Dad has signed a contract. The starting price is far lower than he paid in 1995, but that's expected. I'm sure he'll end up dropping the price if someone makes an offer.
One glitch we ran into is that his phone service is provided by the assisted living facility and it only allows local calls. I'm out of town and he was unable to call me! I don't know what other residents do for long distance but the simple solution was that I got Google Voice number in his area code and it rings my home number and/or my cell phone number. I wanted it to be easy and seamless for him and it works for what we need.
All the Trader Joes wine was donated to the dining facility for their Thursday Happy Hour, so he should be very popular!
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Sue
just finished reading thru this thread (well, mostly your posts) and can relate, as we have just gone thru the same thing w/my dad, 89. moved in last Nov; house on the market now. I won't hijack this thread by adding all the similar details, but I see there's a PM feature at this site if you'd like to compare experiences
just finished reading thru this thread (well, mostly your posts) and can relate, as we have just gone thru the same thing w/my dad, 89. moved in last Nov; house on the market now. I won't hijack this thread by adding all the similar details, but I see there's a PM feature at this site if you'd like to compare experiences
Sue, I'm to hear that you father is in and "settled" and looks to be happy in his new place. Maybe the dust will clear shortly and you can get back to your normal life. Best wishes to your dad. Hope things go that well for me some day.
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Sue - So glad to hear things have gone so smoothly for all of you (and the Google Voice phone solution is brilliant!). I suspect your father is already making new friends and getting involved around his new home. Bravo!
And the condo is SOLD!
In the first day that the condo was listed online his agent got a very low offer, but it's cash with no contingencies. There are 9 other units in his building or the other building on the market. They are all larger, in much better shape, move-in ready or just need to be redecorated. His is very worn, plain and outdated. He did not want to upgrade or replace anything but we did have the carpet cleaned and whole place professionally cleaned.
This is not a hot real estate market. All the other units for sale in his complex have been on the market for 4 months to 10 months and they show much better. The buyer is looking to get into this complex with a unit he can buy at a low price and fix up. Dad could have done about $15,000 in carpet, paint and the kitchen and it still would not have been great.
He made a counter offer and the buyer came up a little and he accepted. He didn't want to take such a low offer but he also looked at the costs of carrying this for many months. The monthly maintenance fee is $500, taxes, insurance and keeping the electricity on runs $200. And he just wants it all done and his life kept simple. So he accepted the low offer and the closing is October 10th. My sister and I need to move fast to get the rest of the stuff cleared out and we will work on that this weekend.
There is also a storage closet down the hall from his unit and another one in another area in the building. Who knows what's in there! Could be more stuff they put into storage when they bought newer stuff or maybe it's where the family treasures were tucked away. Or it's more crap to be tossed in a dumpster. Anything usable gets donated, anything valuable gets ebayed.
But I'm not bringing any more of it home!
In the first day that the condo was listed online his agent got a very low offer, but it's cash with no contingencies. There are 9 other units in his building or the other building on the market. They are all larger, in much better shape, move-in ready or just need to be redecorated. His is very worn, plain and outdated. He did not want to upgrade or replace anything but we did have the carpet cleaned and whole place professionally cleaned.
This is not a hot real estate market. All the other units for sale in his complex have been on the market for 4 months to 10 months and they show much better. The buyer is looking to get into this complex with a unit he can buy at a low price and fix up. Dad could have done about $15,000 in carpet, paint and the kitchen and it still would not have been great.
He made a counter offer and the buyer came up a little and he accepted. He didn't want to take such a low offer but he also looked at the costs of carrying this for many months. The monthly maintenance fee is $500, taxes, insurance and keeping the electricity on runs $200. And he just wants it all done and his life kept simple. So he accepted the low offer and the closing is October 10th. My sister and I need to move fast to get the rest of the stuff cleared out and we will work on that this weekend.
There is also a storage closet down the hall from his unit and another one in another area in the building. Who knows what's in there! Could be more stuff they put into storage when they bought newer stuff or maybe it's where the family treasures were tucked away. Or it's more crap to be tossed in a dumpster. Anything usable gets donated, anything valuable gets ebayed.
But I'm not bringing any more of it home!
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Good. He was smart to take it. Cash is good; so many things can happen once the bank gets into the picture.
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+1 Getting any offer this fast, in a real estate market that is not hot, is worth celebrating. Hope you can get it cleaned out with minimal hassle.
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I agree... take the money and run....
When my mom sold her house, it was in such bad shape that we did not even list it.... we called one of those 'we buy anything' companies... we were surprised that they offered us MORE than what we thought it was worth... they had to put $45K into fixing it up, but still made a $25K profit..
This was a few years ago, but I had my old house on the market for one year before I got an offer... and I did not have it priced high.... just that there were so few qualified buyers and LOTS of houses on the market... I took the first offer and did not look back....
When my mom sold her house, it was in such bad shape that we did not even list it.... we called one of those 'we buy anything' companies... we were surprised that they offered us MORE than what we thought it was worth... they had to put $45K into fixing it up, but still made a $25K profit..
This was a few years ago, but I had my old house on the market for one year before I got an offer... and I did not have it priced high.... just that there were so few qualified buyers and LOTS of houses on the market... I took the first offer and did not look back....
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I am glad everything is working out for your Dad and I hope he loves his new location.
Yikes. I bet it's even scarier when you multiply those expenses by the average number of days on the market for the other properties.
Going through those boxes with your Dad will be like an oral history interview. Take good notes!
He's not going through boxes with us. He has moved on and is not interested in anything he left behind. It's just my sister and me and our husbands dealing with it all. Dad did tell me that one of the storage closets has his old business ledger books. He was a roofing salesman from 1963 to 1985 and my mom did the business's bookkeeping. I'll bring those home and go through them just to learn about how they managed things back then.
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I've followed this thread and am happy things have worked out well. +1 on selling his old place. I think there's some good karma working here. Hope it continues for you and your family.
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