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Old 07-30-2012, 02:49 PM   #21
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Old 07-30-2012, 03:12 PM   #22
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I don't really get worked up over this, but I do find it interesting that some people think I must be accountable to them for how I spend my time. I guess I could ask them to pay me a certain amount every day as a retirement salary. Then, I would be happy to report to them what I do each day.
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I still get that question occasionally, my stock answer is "anything I want".
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My stock answer usually goes something like this; golfing, riding my motorcycle, playing guitar, spending quality time with my grandkids, exercising, taking classes, reading, surfing the net, managing my portfolio, volunteering, pestering the wife and generally being a PIA to anyone I feel is deserving. Also I usually add every day is Saturday and I honestly don't know how I managed to work all those years as I sure as hell couldn't fit into my current schedule.

One comment I get quite often and it makes me chuckle and I usually agree, is, how lucky I am, which is true to a certain extent. Lucky that I had a good job, worked my ass off (many 50-60 hour weeks over the course of 32 years) and had enough sense and discipline to save and plan for the future.
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I still get that question occasionally, my stock answer is "anything I want".
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I seem to have had more free time when I was full time employed than I do now. My honey do list had gotten so large over the years that I am now trying to work on it and I figure I need about 5 more years to finally catch up and erase it - as long as nothing else gets added to it that is...
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I have encountered some of this. Our culture is so goal oriented, and I feel like there is an expectation, especially among people steeped in the work force, that early retirement must be dedicated to some higher, grander purpose than just taking every day as it comes. I don't think a lot of people can get their heads around the fact that I worked hard and sacrificed enough for the privilege of doing nothing all day if that's what I feel like doing.
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I guess that I just hang around the wrong kind of people anymore. No one ever asks me how I use my time.......guess nobody gives a crap anymore! About the only questions I ever get asked are if I've come up with any new recipes, found any new recipes, tried any new restaurants, gone on any trips lately, or have any trips coming up. All questions that I'm more than happy answer and discuss with folks!!!
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OK, Why are so many people so concerned over how I spend my time? Why do they expect me to be accountable to them?

I must admit that I am a bit amazed at how many people are now questioning me about the details about how I spend my time. While not technicaly retired, I have done my last day of work and am busy doing things about the house, catching up on my reading and socializing.

Have others experienced this phenomena? Questions like "What do you do all day?", "How long did it take you to do that?", What are you going to do next?", or, the worst one "Don't you get bored?"

I was not ready for this. I expected a few comments, but not this many and not so often. Or do I have so much idle time on my hands that I am imagining this.
Ah, Chuckanut, perhaps these people with their questions aren't concerned at all about how you spend your time. I know I'm not. No concerns at all. Actually, we have a thread here "What Did You Do Today?" which has 10,798 replies (and, counting). I can't imagine the not-yet-retired people who have been reading the "What Did You Do Today?" thread are judging those who have. I know I enjoy hearing what other people are doing once they are retired. And, I like hearing what other people plan/hope/wish to do once they retire. So, Chuckanut, EXACTLY what did you do today?
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Welcome to the club.

When folks start questioning your time and ask don't you get bored, you know you are retired.

My best response usually is "It's not boring at all, every day is a Saturday."

Recently, my response is "There still isn't enough time. It's amazing how fun it is just putzing the day away."
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I seem to have had more free time when I was full time employed than I do now. My honey do list had gotten so large over the years that I am now trying to work on it and I figure I need about 5 more years to finally catch up and erase it - as long as nothing else gets added to it that is...
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I am not yet retired, but I have several friends who know I am planning for it, and planning for it prior to age 60. One, who doesn't have much in the way of hobbies, doesn't understand why I would retire so early. She asks what would I do with all the time and makes comments about how her older relatives' minds went downhill after they stopped working.

I think that some people seriously think of retirement as getting old and decrepit. Clearly the people on this board, whether retired or not, think of it as freedom to do whatever they want, and have plenty to keep them busy and fulfilled.

So, Chuckanut, the question is not a reflection on you but as the old saying goes, "consider the source". I wouldn't take it personally.
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As opposed to the decrepit-minded people who are still in the workplace, no doubt! Ever heard the phrase "retired in place"? Everybody goes downhill as they age - just at different paces.

And Chuckanut, what you are really asking, I suspect, is "Why are some people so darn nosey?" Some people will ask anything that comes into their trite little minds. Advice columnists, after all, are forever publishing letters from desperate, infertile couples who keep getting asked, "So, why don't you have kids yet?"

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And Chuckanut, what you are really asking, I suspect, is "Why are some people so darn nosey?"
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People are naturally and IMO rightfully curious about the people in their environment. It pays to know what working age males are doing when they are walking around in the day. I want to know as much as I can about the people in my environment, and they want to know about me.

It would be a real stretch to call me trite. However, various other prejoratives might fit well enough.

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It bothered me at first. Then I realized what a great conversation topic it was. Realizing it is not normal being an early retiree. I just have fun with it now and enjoy the various banter with folks. I get a chuckle out of the ladies who cut my hair.


Sometimes I'm unemployed other times I'm retired. Depends on the person asking
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Why are so many people so concerned over how I spend my time?

And why do some many people think they have to answer such a nosey question in great details ? I would not even bother.
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Why are so many people so concerned over how I spend my time?

And why do some many people think they have to answer such a nosey question in great details ? I would not even bother.
There are plenty of well intended reasons they could be asking that have nothing to do with being nosey, as many earlier posts discussed. The issue can be with the retiree and not the person asking a simple question...
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My Mom has had this on her desk for years (must be true, she's 90)
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Calvin: "I don't have anything to do".
Mother: "Well then, why don't you go clean your room?"
Calvin: "I was bragging"
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Old 08-02-2012, 02:27 PM   #40
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Some of it may be just the usual conversation starter type stuff to show interest in the other person (in this case Chuckanut).

I get "How's work?" all the time from folks I haven't talked to recently.
My son's get "How's school?"
And it's not uncommon for me to ask "How are things going? Doing anything interesting?"

If you want the person to stop asking - start answering the question in great detail. Minute by minute, blow by blow, including personal hygiene stuff (brushed my teeth). That tends to stop future questions.
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