As you can tell, I'm new at this 'work' thing. Perhaps I should go back to where I came from. I'm still lost but slowly getting somewhere. See previous topic. http://early-retirement.org/forums/index.php?topic=7440.0
So what does a manager supposed to do? What is a good manager?
I work very closely with my manager. Together we make up a team, just the two of us on this super project of other teams. But we mostly work together. There's lots of work to be done, both of us. She has me do some, she does others, and i also get work from other managers (this i dont understand yet).
Should my manager be my 'parent'? I always assumed the manager knew what was going on with me. What work i was on, how much work I had, how much is too much, how i'm feeling and all that. Is she supposed to know this? Should she care?
In reality. I'm worn out, very worn out. Now at times she always asks me, am i ok? Well this is a dilemma. If i say yes, she is happy, but i am not happy. If i say no, she is not happy, I am still not happy.
...Besides the "pure" managing part. What else would there be? I actually enjoy working with her, because she is very good, very dedicated, and many times selfless. (she works hard, long hours, pushing lunch back alot, if she even gets it.) What happens is this passes down to me, I'm not sure I am as 'dedicated' as her, but I am not against working by her side by side. She is fun to be with, has great stories, and is always telling me about her experiences and trying to teach me.
We often 'celebrate' by going to out to coffee (at an un-named coffeeshop that has taken over the world). We take a small break where we just talk about anything, then head back into the office (often times at 6pm, 7pm) and continue work. I really think she is really interesting and great to hang out with. But is that 'too far'? Is there a line? Like get some dinner, go hiking, weekend lunch, coffee anything outside of the office.
I feel that I enjoy working with people, not just 'positions'. I want to work with Steve, Mary, and Joe. Not the finance guy, planning lady, and quality guy. Real people that have personalities, lives, emotions and all that. I want to know them... i guess become friends.
Ok. maybe i opened two cans of worms.
So what does a manager supposed to do? What is a good manager?
I work very closely with my manager. Together we make up a team, just the two of us on this super project of other teams. But we mostly work together. There's lots of work to be done, both of us. She has me do some, she does others, and i also get work from other managers (this i dont understand yet).
Should my manager be my 'parent'? I always assumed the manager knew what was going on with me. What work i was on, how much work I had, how much is too much, how i'm feeling and all that. Is she supposed to know this? Should she care?
In reality. I'm worn out, very worn out. Now at times she always asks me, am i ok? Well this is a dilemma. If i say yes, she is happy, but i am not happy. If i say no, she is not happy, I am still not happy.
...Besides the "pure" managing part. What else would there be? I actually enjoy working with her, because she is very good, very dedicated, and many times selfless. (she works hard, long hours, pushing lunch back alot, if she even gets it.) What happens is this passes down to me, I'm not sure I am as 'dedicated' as her, but I am not against working by her side by side. She is fun to be with, has great stories, and is always telling me about her experiences and trying to teach me.
We often 'celebrate' by going to out to coffee (at an un-named coffeeshop that has taken over the world). We take a small break where we just talk about anything, then head back into the office (often times at 6pm, 7pm) and continue work. I really think she is really interesting and great to hang out with. But is that 'too far'? Is there a line? Like get some dinner, go hiking, weekend lunch, coffee anything outside of the office.
I feel that I enjoy working with people, not just 'positions'. I want to work with Steve, Mary, and Joe. Not the finance guy, planning lady, and quality guy. Real people that have personalities, lives, emotions and all that. I want to know them... i guess become friends.
Ok. maybe i opened two cans of worms.