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I find these two things necessary, but really different in how easy or difficult they are to do.
In my life right now, I have a strict low carb regime going on, and also a demanding workout schedule.
The diet requires what I think of as negative discipline, the ability to say no to things that I have decided are not good. In the arena of food anyway, this is so easy for me as to be almost a non-issue. Likely this would not be true, except that the low carb diet choices are satisfying and keep me reasonably full anyway. I have to remind myself to eat so that I don't feel kind of sick or weak if I go too long.
Positive discipline is being sure I do things that I think are in my interests, or are the way I should behave, but are not easy to do. Like get myself to workouts regardless of weather of or of how I feel. It was easy years ago when I had people to play games with, and workout companions. But now, I have to make myself do it alone, and it is not easy. It is almost always great once I am launched on the activity, but hard to get there and get going.
Same with flossing 2x/day. Big deal, right? Maybe takes all of 5 minutes. But I can find excuses to skip it, and it is essentially a small daily struggle. There are other things, like staying on top of keeping my very small apartment neat and clean. Hard hard hard!
Another perhaps even more important thing is staying aware of my woman friend's needs which may be different from mine. Overall, I give myself an A+ when what she wants dovetails with what I want. I can really get behind this with enthusiam. But if I need to please her in some way that is not rewarding to me, or even worse is kind of boring to me, it would help if I had someone walking along behind me with a small whip keeping me focused.
One day I as walking down 1st Avenue and some young guy was calling to an obviously pissed woman who was walking away from him, "Hey, I know I'm an A-hole, but no worse than other guys!"
I kind of inwardly winced, because though I have never said this out loud, I have thought it.
I know this is somewhat to the side of our usual money discussions, but I hope some of you will have things to say about this area.
Ha
In my life right now, I have a strict low carb regime going on, and also a demanding workout schedule.
The diet requires what I think of as negative discipline, the ability to say no to things that I have decided are not good. In the arena of food anyway, this is so easy for me as to be almost a non-issue. Likely this would not be true, except that the low carb diet choices are satisfying and keep me reasonably full anyway. I have to remind myself to eat so that I don't feel kind of sick or weak if I go too long.
Positive discipline is being sure I do things that I think are in my interests, or are the way I should behave, but are not easy to do. Like get myself to workouts regardless of weather of or of how I feel. It was easy years ago when I had people to play games with, and workout companions. But now, I have to make myself do it alone, and it is not easy. It is almost always great once I am launched on the activity, but hard to get there and get going.
Same with flossing 2x/day. Big deal, right? Maybe takes all of 5 minutes. But I can find excuses to skip it, and it is essentially a small daily struggle. There are other things, like staying on top of keeping my very small apartment neat and clean. Hard hard hard!
Another perhaps even more important thing is staying aware of my woman friend's needs which may be different from mine. Overall, I give myself an A+ when what she wants dovetails with what I want. I can really get behind this with enthusiam. But if I need to please her in some way that is not rewarding to me, or even worse is kind of boring to me, it would help if I had someone walking along behind me with a small whip keeping me focused.
One day I as walking down 1st Avenue and some young guy was calling to an obviously pissed woman who was walking away from him, "Hey, I know I'm an A-hole, but no worse than other guys!"
I kind of inwardly winced, because though I have never said this out loud, I have thought it.
I know this is somewhat to the side of our usual money discussions, but I hope some of you will have things to say about this area.
Ha