clifp
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I'd like a do over today.
This morning email brought news that my older cousin (I think she is her early 70s) has a large tumor in her breast. The prognosis isn't good. I haven't seen that side of the family in more than a decade so the news is sad but doesn't really hit home.
On the other hand this afternoon brought horrible news, my best friends wife Breast cancer has reappeared and spread to her liver and pancreas. The doc has classified it as Stage IV (the worse) looking at the internet 5 year survival rates are only 15-25%. This caps a roller coaster emotional month, with Doctors saying I think your cancer maybe back,followed by perhaps it is a new bone cancer, another doc saying no cancer it is something else followed, by this horrendous diagnoses.
She is morbidly obese in poor health, and her mental attitude has been very depressed after losing both parents (one to cancer) and suffering through her own loss of her breasts in the last 5 years. It is really hard to be optimistic. She has many terrific qualities, but would drive many men crazy. I am going to get a Hawaii gift basket for her, and hope that she is well enough to travel to Hawaii between chemo sessions. She loves it her.
However, I am more worried about my my buddy he loves her unconditionally and is pretty dependent on her. He is one of the easiest going guys I know, but I think this may just break his spirits.
Anybody who's been through this before want to give me some thoughts on what I can do to help. Stuff friends did that you really appreciate? things that you know they meant well but were painful?
I live in Hawaii he lives in North California so probably can't go visit more than a couple of times a year.
This morning email brought news that my older cousin (I think she is her early 70s) has a large tumor in her breast. The prognosis isn't good. I haven't seen that side of the family in more than a decade so the news is sad but doesn't really hit home.
On the other hand this afternoon brought horrible news, my best friends wife Breast cancer has reappeared and spread to her liver and pancreas. The doc has classified it as Stage IV (the worse) looking at the internet 5 year survival rates are only 15-25%. This caps a roller coaster emotional month, with Doctors saying I think your cancer maybe back,followed by perhaps it is a new bone cancer, another doc saying no cancer it is something else followed, by this horrendous diagnoses.
She is morbidly obese in poor health, and her mental attitude has been very depressed after losing both parents (one to cancer) and suffering through her own loss of her breasts in the last 5 years. It is really hard to be optimistic. She has many terrific qualities, but would drive many men crazy. I am going to get a Hawaii gift basket for her, and hope that she is well enough to travel to Hawaii between chemo sessions. She loves it her.
However, I am more worried about my my buddy he loves her unconditionally and is pretty dependent on her. He is one of the easiest going guys I know, but I think this may just break his spirits.
Anybody who's been through this before want to give me some thoughts on what I can do to help. Stuff friends did that you really appreciate? things that you know they meant well but were painful?
I live in Hawaii he lives in North California so probably can't go visit more than a couple of times a year.
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