I guess that we'll have to agree to disagree on who the stubborn one is.
What you don't seem to understand is that medical service costs (which is the most important determinant in the cost of medical insurance) have increased dramatically so to mitigate the cost insurers have increased deductibles so they don't need to increase premiums as much as they otherwise would need to. If someone want that low deductible plan they can still buy it but the premiums are exorbitant because of the cost of medical services. The amount insurers can charge for overhead and profit is limited by law to 25% of claim costs and in many parts of the country competition squeezes margins to below 25%.
If someone has a serious illness and a stay in the hospital the total cost could easily reach $100,000. My wife had an operation for a broken leg a few years ago and stayed in the hospital one night before going home and the bill was over $50,000.
You say if you pay $12,000 a year and don't ever get to file a claim then you wouldn't be happy. Well if you know going in that you have to cover the first $12,000 of cost and you are 56 and have never been seriously ill then why in the world would you have a reasonable expectation that you will get something out of it? If you are 56 and have never been seriously ill and want to "use" your health insurance then you would need to buy a plan with a lower deductible... then you will get to "use" it... but you'll probably pay $24,000 a year in premiums.
Like it or not, that is the new reality for health insurance... which by the way... was how health insurance worked back in the 1950s and 1960s.
And I totally see that we pay high premiums and get little benefit. I pay about $6000 a year and over the last 3 years the insurer hasn't had to pay squat other than annual physicals.... but, I still buy insurance so if something bad and major happens I won't go broke paying the bills and I can get the negotiated rates for medical services.