JoeWras
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I've just spent the last few months getting my father situated in a senior living arrangement. He really waited too long to do this on his own. He's mostly with us, but physical fragility and creeping dementia has necessitated that my siblings and I help him in these decisions and his move.
It has gone very well -- although my siblings and I are worn out!
It was a lot of work, from making sure all the legal documents were up to date, to the physical move, to deciding on splitting Dad's possessions that he's not taking with him in his downsized arrangement.
So, I started thinking, what about me? I have no kids!
Speaking with some friends, they say: "You are lucky, no kid fights." But this isn't always true. My siblings and I have gotten along fine. We're closer than ever with each other and Dad. I think people who say that mostly are joking, although having seen the mess some kids are in, maybe not.
But anyway... DW and I have each others as POAs, etc. But when one of us passes first, who will take care of the other? We're not too confident with the crop of nieces and nephews, although one or two stand out as being upstanding enough to do the job, perhaps with compensation. It is time for us to update our legal work, and I'd like to get some contingents in there on this round.
I just don't know what to do here. Distant family member? A professional? I'm clueless. Everyone I know in this situation has had someone looking out for them, always a child.
Any insights?
It has gone very well -- although my siblings and I are worn out!
It was a lot of work, from making sure all the legal documents were up to date, to the physical move, to deciding on splitting Dad's possessions that he's not taking with him in his downsized arrangement.
So, I started thinking, what about me? I have no kids!
Speaking with some friends, they say: "You are lucky, no kid fights." But this isn't always true. My siblings and I have gotten along fine. We're closer than ever with each other and Dad. I think people who say that mostly are joking, although having seen the mess some kids are in, maybe not.
But anyway... DW and I have each others as POAs, etc. But when one of us passes first, who will take care of the other? We're not too confident with the crop of nieces and nephews, although one or two stand out as being upstanding enough to do the job, perhaps with compensation. It is time for us to update our legal work, and I'd like to get some contingents in there on this round.
I just don't know what to do here. Distant family member? A professional? I'm clueless. Everyone I know in this situation has had someone looking out for them, always a child.
Any insights?