I would say it was some work to get here, but honestly once you are used to LBYM, maximizing income, and investing wisely, it hasn't really felt like a sacrifice. It's a way of life I enjoy.
My issue is that I've been dating a lot recently and find that many girls are high maintenance - especially those from rich families. They enjoy shopping for pleasure, expensive vacations, etc...
It's also been shown that most divorces stem from financial issues.
My question is, how much weight should one put on looking at a potential spouses money habits? Is it more important to find someone that is intelligent , attractive and shares similar interests? Would you not pursue someone that seemed excellent except for being loose with money?
What if the woman comes for a rich family so is used to that way of life? I don't think I could support a woman that solely shops at high quality designer brands. I also wouldn't feel comfortable taking hand downs from a rich family either.
Any thoughts?
I have 6 years on you, and am in the same boat (never married yet, although have been engaged twice - LONG stories on that).
After making crazy extreme financial sacrifices and being a UPAW (ultra-prodigious accumulator of wealth) for most of my 20s and early 30s, there's no way in hell I would consider marrying someone that spends money like water. Some of my previous relationships were with women who were like that - only you don't really see that until after a little bit of time. There are ways to pick up on things like that initially through indirect means, but I save the verdict until I'm certain.
My main way of meeting women is through eHarmony. At least on that site, you can get matched up with women who often share some important traits - including some financial habits, but also other general interests and personality traits. It's certainly not a sure thing, but definitely easier/better than randomly meeting women at _______ (insert any method here), or just looking at random profiles on match.com or some other website. I wouldn't specifically tell you NOT to use other means, but just be extra vigilant in your search for the right potential spouse, and don't you dare waver on your standards.
However, having said that......in the area of fiscal compatibility, I have realized that because I can be off the charts in terms of sacrificing and denying myself expenditures, there's almost no way I'd ever find a female counterpart with my similar drive to accumulate wealth and retire early. So you have to be realistic and realize that if you meet someone who has a lot of great qualities, yet saves, say, "only" 10% of her income, that still puts her in the a very rare group these days. Don't you dare think you'll find someone with your exact same drive - you WILL have to 'make a concession' on that specific point.
Also, everyone has different paths in their past. Some make bad decisions and learn and grow from that. Seeing what their overall attitude and current direction is is better than seeing what financial means they currently have (which I think you already are looking at, but just wanted to iterate it and keep it fresh in your mind