Winemaker
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
My calendar is already booked that day. I am not accepting any invites from anyone with a long scythe.
All you need to know is WHERE you are going to meet the reaper, and just don'the go there!
My calendar is already booked that day. I am not accepting any invites from anyone with a long scythe.
i always say marriage is like gambling .
she says will you love me in 30 years ? you say i think so .
then you bet 1/2 your assets on it and let it ride ha ha ha ha
Best post on the thread! That says it so perfectly, IMO."Do you know why divorces are so expensive? Because they're WORTH IT!" - Ken Titus
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Good one But many aspects of life are like gambling, no? I think it's worth the risk because the alternative of being alone without children doesn't appeal to me. Even after my divorce from hell I did it again with no prenup. Hopeless romantic I guess.
Danmar, you are a brave, brave man. Good luck and I hope that you never have to go through a divorce again.
...I think it's worth the risk because the alternative of being alone without children doesn't appeal to me. Even after my divorce from hell I did it again with no prenup. Hopeless romantic I guess.
+1 I'm totally in your camp. Marriage should be about mutual affection and commitment. I've never understood the logic of having such reservations about a prospective mate to require a prenup, but marrying anyway.
In the words of Davy Crockett, "Be sure that you are right, and then go ahead."
I don't think of a prenup as having reservations about a prospective mate. It is just sensible planning for a contingency that is fairly common. I think every couple with substantial assets should go thru the prenup process so that they can plan what will happen in the event of a divorce while they are in love, rather than while they actively dislike each other.
It is also an unpleasant process to go thru that can teach you a lot about each other before you get married. Might as well find out beforehand how you cope with unpleasant financial discussions.
I don't pay my life insurance bill because I expect to die this year. I pay it because I could.
I know this is heartfelt position, but it ignores several obvious facts. There may be (or of course may not be) mutual affection and commitment at time of marriage, and a much less optimistic situation at some later date. At that later date partners my hate one another, may be tired of one another, may have changed their life orientation, even sexual orientation. I know several men and women who once married and had children, and at some later time decided or discovered that he or she was homosexual. Without divorce, a very unhappy position. And that is one of many reasons why divorce is provided for in the law. Still, it is up to the partners to provide for their ongoing solvency. Perhaps more commonly, one partner feels some or all of these changes, and the other remains hopeful and committed.+1 I'm totally in your camp. Marriage should be about mutual affection and commitment. I've never understood the logic of having such reservations about a prospective mate to require a prenup, but marrying anyway.
In the words of Davy Crockett, "Be sure that you are right, and then go ahead."
I know this is heartfelt position, but it ignores several obvious facts. There may be (or of course may not be) mutual affection and commitment at time of marriage, and a much less optimistic situation at some later date. At that later date partners my hate one another, may be tired of one another, may have changed their life orientation, even sexual orientation.
Good one But many aspects of life are like gambling, no? I think it's worth the risk because the alternative of being alone without children doesn't appeal to me. Even after my divorce from hell I did it again with no prenup. Hopeless romantic I guess.
What does marriage have to do with kids, or the lack of marriage a sentence to be alone?
I thought at some point the havoc my Exwife causes would cease, that's just not the case. My sons senior year of High School he won 12K showing his heifer for FFA/4H and his mother took it all. He was devastated. Fast forward two years and he caught her stealing money from his checking account. She told him that he "owed" her because she raised him. Two weeks ago I get a call from creditors trying to track her down. It's never going to end. It had never dawned on me, until recently, that the Ex would financially abuse my son and he would have to deal with it longer than I had.
+1, from a never-married person who has no desire whatsoever for kids. To me, the possibility of losing 1/2 of one's assets (everything I have worked for) in a divorce is absolutely terrifying.
+1, from a never-married person who has no desire whatsoever for kids. To me, the possibility of losing 1/2 of one's assets (everything I have worked for) in a divorce is absolutely terrifying.
Some games are such that the only way to win is not to play.
Paraphrased from the best line from War Games, and great words to remember and live by!
Some games are such that the only way to win is not to play.
Some games are such that the only way to win is not to play.
I thought at some point the havoc my Exwife causes would cease, that's just not the case. My sons senior year of High School he won 12K showing his heifer for FFA/4H and his mother took it all. He was devastated. Fast forward two years and he caught her stealing money from his checking account. She told him that he "owed" her because she raised him. Two weeks ago I get a call from creditors trying to track her down. It's never going to end. It had never dawned on me, until recently, that the Ex would financially abuse my son and he would have to deal with it longer than I had.
What does marriage have to do with kids, or the lack of marriage a sentence to be alone?
I think that was the case with my ex. Sanity is not black and white - it is a continuum. You can be wacky, but functional. Add in menopause to a little instability and weird things happen........... it makes me wonder whether here is some confounding of data; i.e., we think it's a marriage/divorce issue, when it's really a mental health situation. Just wondering...
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