Saving Money is STUPID!!!

[Scuba]

Personally I encourage such behavior (in others)....I have investments, dontcha know.

[emoji23]

 

[GravitySucks]

Your a good son.
Your Dad is a lucky man. May be pass peacefully.

 

[hesperus]

she ultimately said, "I don't get it about people who save money. There are no guarantees, so you should enjoy the money...and you can only do that by spending it. Saving money is stupid".

I would answer with "Well, I have about XX million reasons to disagree with you on that one"

 

[cooch96]

Well, if you have a good enough pension (a pretty huge qualification), I’d have to agree with your aunt. We might all be dead tomorrow.

Blow that dough!

 

[Maenad]

I'm sorry to hear about your dad, I hope he remains comfortable. It's great that you're able to be there for him.

Do you have the consolation of never having to see this aunt again? Sometimes we're able to ignore difficult relatives once the family "linchpin" is gone.

 

[O2Bfree]

Did you point out that squirrels, even with their limited intelligence, know that saving is a good idea?

 

[gerntz]

Sometimes I can't believe what some people say. Today's statement came from an aunt which told me, "Saving money is stupid!" Yes, you read that correctly.

Long story short, we have family that has come into town since my Dad's death is imminent. The dying part is certainly bad enough, but there is an aunt and uncle that NO ONE LIKES. While my Dad was still lucid, I told him that they (aunt and uncle) would be there soon, his exact words were. "Well, isn't that a pisser!" Honest to God...Dad said it best, and we ALL agree with that sentiment.

Anyway, I moved in with Dad about 3 weeks ago and said aunt and uncle showed up 7 days ago (not that I am counting) and it has been a living hell since. .

I'd change Dad's home's door locks. No use going to hell too soon.

 

[Midpack]

They might not outright say it's stupid, but don't most people place a relatively low priority on savings? They've all had the access to the same information savers have, but most of them always gotta have the nicest cars, biggest house, best vacations and latest gadgets first - after all, they deserve it. My HR Dept Mgr and I tried to constantly advised everyone we worked with to save & invest, as part of mandatory 401k meetings at least annually, more often with many of them. But most of them spent pretty close to their limit, or over, all the time. And of course almost all of them are still working. I'm nonplussed when I hear it, it is what it is...

 

[FIREd]

Well, I have a family member who thinks that having money is a curse (mo money mo problem!). Yet she is always asking for money... It takes all kinds.

 

[REWahoo]

Well, I have a family member who thinks that having money is a curse (mo money mo problem!). Yet she is always asking for money... It takes all kinds.

Let me guess - when she asks you say, "No, I don't want to curse you."

 

[Koogie]

FWIW, I think Aunty Pisser is right.

Why ? Because somehow those kind of people always seem to still bumble through life and get all their needs taken care of. The proverbial anal horseshoe syndrome. Afterall, she found Uncle Pension, right ?

I have a friend like this. Never gave a damn, always spends beyond his means, never saves and always, always, always falls a**backwards into money.

There must be a patron saint of spendthrifts somewhere and he must be BUSY.


p.s. very sorry to hear about your father. You are a good son and this pestilential woman will soon pass out of your life and you should always be proud of how you were there for your dad at the end.

 

[GrayHare]

It seems another way to say, "Live fast, die young, make a beautiful corpse."

 

[Chuckanut]

Well, I have a family member who thinks that having money is a curse (mo money mo problem!). Yet she is always asking for money... It takes all kinds.

The curse is that your money attracts people like her to you.

 

[Chuckanut]

There must be a patron saint of spendthrifts somewhere and he must be BUSY.


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As far as I can tell this patron saint mostly helps two kinds of people.

1. Very attractive women who age very well, and decide somewhere in their early to mid 50's that they will need a man with $$'s if they are going to have a comfortable life as a senior citizen.

2. Older guys in their 60's and 70's who are broke but charming, entertaining, out going and great company for widows who ended up with a paid off house, all the investments, and 1/2 of former hubby's pension and SS check.

Most everybody else is on their own.

 

[kcowan]

I would add inheritances to that list. Does not change the habit, just lengthens the runway.

 

[marko]

There's idiots everywhere, I've learned.

Reminds me of when I was in my 20's and a friend wanted a loan to buy income property. His other friend's mother said: "If the bank knows you're going to make money on what they lend you, they'll never give you the money!"

And, BTW, 'pissah' or 'pisser' is usually preceded by the word 'wicked' here in Boston.

 

[harley]

Saving money is STUPID.

Synonymous with "Easy come, easy go" or "Money in the bank is money wasted."

I've know several folks who live by that philosophy .

I like the one heard uttered by DGD's father (and HIS father) - "Live rich to be rich."

As far as I can see it's not working well for either of them.

 

[Bryan Barnfellow]

Something there is STUPID for sure. Reminds me of a grad school roommate who was getting a master's in regional planning. I was finishing up some homework problems in advanced probability and statistics for my economics doctoral program. She observed thusly: "I don't believe in statistics. I feel that if I can't eyeball a trend, then it doesn't exist, isn't there." !!! Yes, STUPID in indeed.

Best of luck with your aunty and uncle. Stay on your guard; who knows what they are up to, ultimately.

-BB

 

[kcowan]

I like the one heard uttered by DGD's father (and HIS father) - "Live rich to be rich."

As far as I can see it's not working well for either of them.

OK you are forcing me to overthink. Is your grand daughter's mom married to an idiot and it runs in their family?

It is possible to live rich without money. It just requires a different definition of rich.

 

[harley]

OK you are forcing me to overthink. Is your grand daughter's mom married to an idiot and it runs in their family?

It is possible to live rich without money. It just requires a different definition of rich.

Well, they are idiots, but at least DD never married him.

I've never really understood exactly what they mean, but I think it's sort of like if you do what the rich people do, you're bound to get rich too. Imoldernu started a thread on how difficult statistics can be, but I think many people are just as impaired with regard to basic logic.

 

[ExFlyBoy5]

Thanks everyone for the kind words, I do appreciate them. Dad passed peacefully on Friday night; about as peaceful as a death one can have. He and Mom were VERY fortunate that they didn't have any hospitalizations, falls, or nursing homes in their golden years and both were able to die in their home as they wished.

It has been bittersweet as the last 6 months have been a challenge health wise, and thanks to an overly optimistic physician, Dad had a hard time coming to grips with what was going to happen to him. In the last few days, he seemed to have accepted the inevitable and was at peace with it. He did have a fantastic 90 years on this earth, but it doesn't make the loss of your hero any less tough.

Thankfully, the aunt and uncle both were gone by noon the following day. My Uncle made mention about coming back in a few weeks "with a 40' trailer" to "help clean out the house." I didn't tell him at the time, but his help will NEVER be needed. And if there is anything positive about this, I won't have to deal with him ever again if I don't want to.

As to the comment my Dad made about it "being a pisser", the context was not a positive one. I think he would have been perfectly fine if he wasn't there. As a matter of fact, when Dad was in the final hour of his life, he ultimately died about 5 minutes after the aunt and uncle left the room and I don't think that was coincidental.

Now, I am going to sleep for about 36 hours straight. Then the "fun" of settling his estate will begin. Thankfully we had most of the financial stuff taken care of and hopefully the only real challenge will be dealing with all the stuff that they have stashed in the house which they have lived in for the last almost 50 years.

 

[aja8888]

ExFB, sorry for your loss, but glad to hear your dad had a great life and left under the best of circumstances. Many of us hope it works like that for people in our families and ourselves. Good luck settling the estate.

 

[braumeister]

Very sorry for your loss. It's always tough, no matter what the circumstances.

Glad he had what sounds like a peaceful exit.

 

[Huston55]

ExFB-

Based on my experience with DM, you will look back warmly on your final time with your Dad, and be glad you spent the time with him. Good on ya for being there. I hope you have some help (other than the aforementioned aunt & uncle) to help settle the estate & manage the ‘stuff’ but, either way, I suggest taking it slowly & methodically; don’t sweat the small stuff and, from here on it’s all really small stuff IMHO. Now, get that 36 hrs of well deserved sleep.

 

[hesperus]

Sorry for your loss...