I know, the last thing you all need is another weird relative saga, but here goes.
My BIL is a very odd person. He has operated a one-man business for over 40 years, unsuccessfully.
He managed to make a small profit at first, thanks to the oversight of his wife, but after she died (nearly 30 years ago) he lost control. He is a hoarder, and much happier buying inventory than selling it. In fact, today he has probably three times the inventory he had when he was widowed. Most of it is poorly stored and deteriorating. He has two properties: the house he lives in and the nearby store. No savings at all.
We have been bailing him out for decades, by loaning him money to avoid foreclosures on one or the other property (he's very bad about paying his property taxes). He usually paid us back eventually, but there is still a big shortfall that we have written off.
About five years ago we had enough and told him the Bank of Braumeister was closed. We offered to help him by taking some of his inventory and selling it for him (all proceeds going to him) and offered several suggestions for getting his business back on track. His reaction was "I'm an expert in this business, you're not, so I'm not going to even listen to you."
The problem is that he values his inventory at many times what a reasonable person would pay for it.
Eventually, his house went to foreclosure auction and at the last minute he got a high interest loan from a local guy to pay it off, using the store as collateral.
He hasn't been able to keep up payments on that loan, and recently came to us for help again. Since he has no idea how he would be able to repay our help, we offered (once again) to sell some of his inventory for him and we got the same reaction -- absolutely not. As I said, he is a hoarder.
So he contacted us again, through his lawyer, with this message: "When I'm gone, please be sure to keep my inventory safe."
Obviously, emotional blackmail (threatening suicide?) that he has also used in the past. Even his lawyer has had enough of this (I could hear his eyes rolling over the phone as he relayed the message), and none of us believes he is actually capable of it.
Long story, and as this has been going on for decades I see no end to it apart from the obvious resolution that he loses his store and inventory. He leads a very simple life and could certainly survive on just his Social Security, so that's not a problem. But he could so easily do so much better by simply liquidating his inventory for what it will bring. Hard for me to understand his thinking, and I've talked extensively with both his own lawyer and others who know him. None of us is able to empathize.
Sorry for the very long story, but if anyone has a suggestion I'd be glad to hear it.
My BIL is a very odd person. He has operated a one-man business for over 40 years, unsuccessfully.
He managed to make a small profit at first, thanks to the oversight of his wife, but after she died (nearly 30 years ago) he lost control. He is a hoarder, and much happier buying inventory than selling it. In fact, today he has probably three times the inventory he had when he was widowed. Most of it is poorly stored and deteriorating. He has two properties: the house he lives in and the nearby store. No savings at all.
We have been bailing him out for decades, by loaning him money to avoid foreclosures on one or the other property (he's very bad about paying his property taxes). He usually paid us back eventually, but there is still a big shortfall that we have written off.
About five years ago we had enough and told him the Bank of Braumeister was closed. We offered to help him by taking some of his inventory and selling it for him (all proceeds going to him) and offered several suggestions for getting his business back on track. His reaction was "I'm an expert in this business, you're not, so I'm not going to even listen to you."
The problem is that he values his inventory at many times what a reasonable person would pay for it.
Eventually, his house went to foreclosure auction and at the last minute he got a high interest loan from a local guy to pay it off, using the store as collateral.
He hasn't been able to keep up payments on that loan, and recently came to us for help again. Since he has no idea how he would be able to repay our help, we offered (once again) to sell some of his inventory for him and we got the same reaction -- absolutely not. As I said, he is a hoarder.
So he contacted us again, through his lawyer, with this message: "When I'm gone, please be sure to keep my inventory safe."
Obviously, emotional blackmail (threatening suicide?) that he has also used in the past. Even his lawyer has had enough of this (I could hear his eyes rolling over the phone as he relayed the message), and none of us believes he is actually capable of it.
Long story, and as this has been going on for decades I see no end to it apart from the obvious resolution that he loses his store and inventory. He leads a very simple life and could certainly survive on just his Social Security, so that's not a problem. But he could so easily do so much better by simply liquidating his inventory for what it will bring. Hard for me to understand his thinking, and I've talked extensively with both his own lawyer and others who know him. None of us is able to empathize.
Sorry for the very long story, but if anyone has a suggestion I'd be glad to hear it.