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We thought we'd go the cremation and scatter the ashes route. Then we had a few experiences with relatives or friends passing that changed our minds.......
DW's brother passed, was cremated and his ashes scattered in a beautiful mountain meadow near a sibling's home in the Vail, Colorado area. Nice. But after a couple of years, My DW, and even her sister on whose property the ashes were scattered, felt they wanted some place more specific to visit to remember their brother. We wound up buying (at no small cost!) a commemorative brick on a memorial wall at his alma mater (the same school I attended BTW). So now, from time to time at homecoming weekends, etc., we visit the wall. DW likes it. Therefore it works for us.
My best friend died a couple of years ago. We were tight buddies since we were 4 years old and true kindred spirits. He was cremated and his ashes scattered at Solder Field and Sox Park in Chicago where he held season tickets and was a big fan. But after a year or so, his son (my Godson) decided to use one of the spaces in the family plot for him and had a marker put in despite the fact no physical material (ashes or body) was there. I have lots of family at the same cemetery and when visiting enjoy the fact I can walk over and "say hello."
And there are some additional examples, less related, I won't bore you with.
Sooooo...... Given the fact there is a family plot, DW and I have decided we'll have markers and be there with the rest. If no one knows or cares a generation or two down the road, it won't matter to us....... we're dead. If someone likes to take the family tree and walk around and see the names on the graves, that's fine too.
DW's brother passed, was cremated and his ashes scattered in a beautiful mountain meadow near a sibling's home in the Vail, Colorado area. Nice. But after a couple of years, My DW, and even her sister on whose property the ashes were scattered, felt they wanted some place more specific to visit to remember their brother. We wound up buying (at no small cost!) a commemorative brick on a memorial wall at his alma mater (the same school I attended BTW). So now, from time to time at homecoming weekends, etc., we visit the wall. DW likes it. Therefore it works for us.
My best friend died a couple of years ago. We were tight buddies since we were 4 years old and true kindred spirits. He was cremated and his ashes scattered at Solder Field and Sox Park in Chicago where he held season tickets and was a big fan. But after a year or so, his son (my Godson) decided to use one of the spaces in the family plot for him and had a marker put in despite the fact no physical material (ashes or body) was there. I have lots of family at the same cemetery and when visiting enjoy the fact I can walk over and "say hello."
And there are some additional examples, less related, I won't bore you with.
Sooooo...... Given the fact there is a family plot, DW and I have decided we'll have markers and be there with the rest. If no one knows or cares a generation or two down the road, it won't matter to us....... we're dead. If someone likes to take the family tree and walk around and see the names on the graves, that's fine too.
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